<p>The answers seem to be the same: equal love, not necessarily equal $$$$$.</p>
<p>Analogy: I wouldn’t put equal food on their plates either. My D really does eat like a birda and my S, where oh where does he put it? Typical. But other things can’t be the same. Don’t want one stuffed and one starving. Each child should have the food s/he needs without overstuffing.</p>
<p>DS cost more growing up because of lots of expensive music lessons. However, he did practice an hour a day and desperately wanted them. DD took only sporatic lessons. DD’s clothes cost much more than DS’s. I didn’t keep a tally. DD’s school gave generous FA; DS’s gave more and no loans. I didn’t tally up money spent on each.</p>