<p>CGM…I am sorry this has upset you both on that thread and now here. I’m starting to feel like I am back in middle school. Too much drama. I was saying that JMmom was gutsy to express herself on that thread after a LOT of assumptions were made about others and she said what she felt as she was frustrated and didn’t hold it in. The posts here have been discussing the THREAD and that some felt like their heads were spinning by the nature of the discourse back and forth on the entire thread.</p>
<p>I think before my head spins anymore…let me suggest that the discussion on that takes a rest…</p>
<p>So, how was everyone’s day today? I saw a production of The Laramie Project which is a play that is very moving.</p>
<p>I felt the same way ,soozievt, three posters in a corner, cheering on the dissing of me on another thread, a very pointed post, btw, and pretty clear the post was about ME, not the thread, well, yeah, it was a middle school moment</p>
<p>sad indeed, too bad I can’t come here anymore, its not a safe place</p>
<p>I haven’t been on in a few days–busy with a recording session w/choir, winds, DB, and piano–me!–and it was stressful but fun…in a masochistic sort of way… and something I havn’t done in a while so I was pleased to be back in the saddle so to speak…</p>
<p>Then I came her to check up on things and found people moping after a brawl. </p>
<p>Oh no! </p>
<p>SA sad? </p>
<p>People! Stop the middle-school nit-picky fighting…agree to disagree if you must. Shake hands, sit down, and have a nice drink. The marmots will play some soothing music.</p>
<p>We have Jacuzzis and Barcaloungers with magic fingers too!</p>
<p>SBmom - that is the sweetest story I’ve heard in a while. </p>
<p>momof2inca - what great news about your D! I hope the college admissions process goes as you outline. My 2nd child is much easier than the 1st, too.</p>
<p>When my sons were younger, we used to act out Peter and the Wolf, varying roles on different days. I wish I’d thought of filming it.</p>
<p>jmmom, I had a lovely comment from S1 less than a year ago. He said, very gravely, “Mom, you are, seriously, the best mother in the world.” Then he turned 14 and things changed. Yesterday I heard that he did not want to have his friends over because I was so embarrassing. When asked what I did to embarrass him, he said that I came in to say hello. I should not talk to his friends, I should ignore them. Worse, I offer food. I pointed out that he often eats at V’s house, so his mother must offer food. He said that she does it in a way that’s not embarrassing. Needless to say, my suggestion that I ask her for lessons was not received well.</p>
<p>NYMomof2, I can relate…though only my younger D did this…but when her friends would call here and I was the one to pick up, and I might engage in a 30 second, “how are you?” type of interchange before getting my D to come to the phone, she would get upset and not want me to talk to her friends at all and in my view, it is polite since I know them and none seemed to mind but at a certain age, she did. My other D never acted that way. But simply acknowledging the friend when they called was like this big no no.</p>
<p>OMG.</p>
<p>I go to bed early one night and when I walk up to the Alley I see various denizens crashing through the windows. I think last night the Alley was a Western Saloon.</p>
<p>Well I’ll be Miss Kitty I guess, and just saunter up the bar and say,</p>
<p>“Love that story about your little guy SBmom.”</p>
<p>Wanna hear a story about Alumom saying something funny? Once my best friend and I were out at Chilis (ugh) when my two were 14 and 11, and her four were 13, 11, 7, and 3. The 7 year old was her boy who is a freaking good athlete but not good at sitting in a restaurant even one like Chilis. He was taking his french fries and stabbing his corn them. Says Alumother, " BFFson, corn and potatoes are not enemies in their natural habitat. Stop that!"</p>
<p>He didn’t have any idea what I was saying but I amused myself enormously.</p>
<p>And NYMomof2, I would love to know the difference between embarassing ways to offer food and non-embarassing ways. I mean, if you are coming out in a g-string and serving the kids I do see his point…</p>
<p>Recently S’s school held a senior parents application question night. I warned Aluson I had a question. I proceed to ask in front of all essentially how to keep your child on track without nagging them and asking if I could call the college counselor and she could nag my son as I thought that would work much better. When I finished, S said under his breath, “Way to go under the radar, Mom.”</p>
<p>However, the next day all his friends told him how cool his mom was. Hah. Last laugh to the embarassing mother:).</p>
<p>Now I will just rustle my bustle back to the kitchen and git you all some eggs…</p>
<p>Funny how the peer endorsement is so important. At least he passed it on to you!</p>
<p>Alumother, Now I’m laughing out loud, at the mental image of me appearing in a g-string, or anything that does not cover me from neck to ankles!</p>
<p>Hello all, well, glad to see the alley is funny again</p>
<p>love to all, and I mean to ALL, and off to the mall to spend my Hs money</p>
<p>Nothing like a day of shopping that is good for the soul. Enjoy.</p>
<p>Just to be clear, Aluson did not say the following:</p>
<p>“Oh mother dear I have seen the error of my ways and realized that you ARE the coolest of all mothers and from now on I will speak to you in volumes and never again will I use a sarcastic tone of voice and BTW I will now pay as much attention to my studies as I do to Neo’s music…”</p>
<p>It was more like this:</p>
<p>“Mom, uh, like, everyone said ‘your mom is really cool’” <em>change of subject</em></p>
<p>CGM, I would love some new black wool pants, wanna get me some?</p>
<p>Defenestration in the alley. Okay, clean up time!</p>
<p>Alumother. Aluson. You guys are the coolest. Love it.</p>
<p>
Well, DUH! There’s your problem right there, actually SPEAKING to teenagers. Sheesh, whatever were you thinking? </p>
<p>While you guys are out shopping, could you pick me up a good Hallowe’en mask? I’m sending my favorite one off in the CARE package to TFSFH today and I’m gonna need something, stat.</p>
<p>EDIT: WHOA, I just had an idea! (As TFSFH would say, “Beginner’s luck.” Sigh.) I’m going to make a mask of my Second Life avatar and be her for Hallowe’en!! :D</p>
<p>When the going get tough, the tough go shopping. :)</p>
<p>Words to live by.</p>
<p>Your son could go as TFSFH and you could get a shirt with that inscribed. :D</p>
<p>Correct me if I’m wrong, but I do believe all us gals in Sinners Alley are <em>tough.</em></p>
<p>When I said earlier that: “Nothing like a day of shopping that is good for the soul,” I realized that afterwards, I could have substituted “sole” if CGM is a shoe shopper!</p>
<p>So is a walk to the food court in search of sole food? Must one be shopping alone for it to be so? I wonder these things.</p>
<p>As for embarrassing the teens, I still recall realizing I’d descended into the “oh mother” category (never knew “mother” could have SO many syllables…)when D hit age 14.</p>
<p>If I even touched a garment on a rack, it was automatically “Ewww.” I learned to
only hold up hangers for what I did NOT want her to buy, and stay far from what I thought might be nice. I told my H I had “the reverse Midas touch” when we shopped; anything I touched turned to S**t.</p>
<p>Let buygones be buygones </p>
<p>(had to run home and swap out cars) and just had to peek</p>