@yourmomma - Better Learn this phrase: “Would you like fries with that?”
In 1985, the summer I worked a fast food job to help pay for my college, I was told the correct way to ask was really not to ask at all - but to subtly encourage it by stating, as a matter of fact “You want fries with that” It can be interpreted a number of ways, because the patron will understand it as a question, and more often say yes. In addition, since saying one fewer word takes less time, we can help customers a half-second quicker. He had claimed that the company had taken a blind study between different franchises and sales were better where servers were instructed to state it instead of questioning it.
OP - I don’t mean to threadjack. I wanted to add I think @bjkmom 's assessment in #2 is terrific.
I also wanted to add, recall the wise words of Master Yoda - “The greatest teacher, failure is”