<p>Hindoo - I am sorry to hear that your daughter was waitlisted. I was under the impression that she’d been accepted. I can certainly then understand your reaction.</p>
<p>Brand–Thank you. She was disappointed, but not particularly surprised, and is emotionally moving on with grace and calm. (Her high-strung, bad-tempered old mother is quite a different story, as I’m sure you’ve noted from my postings!) My daughter found WashU very interesting and appealing, but has liked a couple of other schools similarly well. It’s probably better that she be waitlisted, than someone whose heart was set on WashU. … And I still think she’s the center of the universe! Heh, heh. …</p>
<p>Hindoo - I am sorry. I had not seen the “nasty” comments you pointed out to me from other threads and this thread really did not contain any. Some of those people were clearly “over the top” and I can only imagine the extra and unnecessary pain those comments would give to someone who was waitlisted.</p>
<p>I don’t know why anyone, on either side of this (and isn’t it ridiculous that there have to be sides?) wouldn’t realize that there are lots of amazing candidates and only so many places to fill. Schools are looking for diversity - and the reason one kid didn’t get in over another may simply be that they needed more kids from a certain area or more kids who played a certain instrument. The waitlisters are certainly not inferior in any way - nor are they better or more qualified than those who were accepted (something I get a little defensive about myself as it is not particularly pleasant for my daughter to read that the only reason she got in is because she isn’t as qualified as some of the other applicants).</p>
<p>In any case, I’m sure your daughter will find her place at a wonderful school and be happy there, whether or not it is Wash U. These things have a way of working out and being “right.” Good luck to you both (and having just read your most recent post, your wife, too!)</p>
<p>Thanks, MomtoTwo. I understand what you’re saying. I whined about marketing style, etc., but never agreed with those who claimed that kids were waitlisted because they were too good for WashU. Of course, that’s ridiculous. But for some people, this was probably a way to rationalize and to cast a positive spin on the disappointment of being waitlisted/rejected. They probably didn’t realize how offensive this line of reasoning would be to accepted students and their parents.</p>