So my guy pals, how would you want a girl to make the first move?

[HarryJones]

<p>@footballthuggin2:</p>

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nowhere in the post did i say it would insult me if a girl asks me out

What other reason is there for not wanting to be asked out by a girl than an ‘insult to your manliness’?</p>

<p>@CloudyCloud:
Hah, you’re hilarious.
First you say this:

I didn’t say anything about “feeling masculine”

Then you say this:

The only man who wants a girl to ask him out is the man who cant get a girl. I don’t have that problem, maybe you do.

So basically “We’re not talking about masculinity, but YOU’RE NOT A REAL MAN”. Lawl.</p>

<p>And sure you never actually used the word ‘masculinity’ but what else were you talking about? </p>

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If a girl was to pursue me the same way I pursue a girl that like, then yes, I would see her as desperate. Why? Because that is what I have been accustomed to. Maybe if EVERY girl in the world was to switch roles and pursue us instead, then maybe I would change my mind. But a girl should know that guys make the first move and guys want to be in control. Girls want a guy who is in control. That is why “wussy” men become friend-zoned and aren’t considered potential boyfriends.

Smh, I just don’t know how to argue against this level of stupidity. This isn’t 1950, you know?</p>

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Lets speak hypothetically for a second here. Suppose a girl did ask you out Harry and you said yes. Do you expect her to pay for your dinner? Do you expect her to pick you up at 8? Do you expect her to call you and fight for your attention? Would that turn you on? It sure as hell wouldn’t turn me on, and I would never expect a girl to do those things for me. Especially not on a first date.

Dinner -> I’d offer to split, but why not?
pick you up at 8 -> Sure, if she wants to
call you and fight for your attention -> ???
I don’t see your point. I’m not ‘man enough’ to see it, perhaps?</p>

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So if YOU want a girl to ask you out, then post your results if that ever happens to you. I would love to see how this alternate scenario works out. But until then, I definitely don’t want a girl to ask me out. I know I will perceive it as desperate, and I know many more men would too. And that is just the ugly truth.

I never said I WANTED a girl to ask me out. I just said I wouldn’t be against a girl asking me out. As to the rest, I just don’t know what to say. It’s alright for a girl to make obvious signals of her interest, but once she actually asks to go out with you, she’s desperate?</p>