<p>Well, the midsemester grades come out this week. We’ll see how they are.</p>
<p>Cloverdale 7, I would never cut him off completely. I told him that he could only come home twice a month, but my instinct tells me to have him come home every weekend if that’s what it takes to keep him there. He takes a long time to warm up to new situations ( such as being in a new dorm with different people) and maybe by April he’ll be more comfortable.</p>
<p>It’s funny that I had so many points on his Amtrak trips that I was able to get a free round trip ticket for my daughter!</p>
<p>Would be interested to hear how your sons progress, Rileydog and Jdasmom. We all need to support each other.</p>
<p>patsimae, son #2 is still in high school, a junior! We can’t imagine sending this kid off to college. This is a kid who is in all honors and APs but only survives because the rest of the world keeps him organized. Between me, his friends, and the IM, he has resources. He mostly gets Bs because he aces tests but never remembers to turn in, or do, homework, projects, etc. He just got a progress report in Health (who gets a progress report in Health?) because he did not kow he had to write 10 journal article…where is this kid’s head??? Or, he skips directions, speeds through things - he can tell you everything you want to know in great detail but do not ask him to write it down because he can only write down a few things - no patience - can’t imagine how he is going to sit for the SAT now that it is so long. We tried letting him fall on his face but that doesn’t make a difference, he just keeps falling on his face, and we tried putting him in level one classes thinking that would help him develop some organizational skills or manage things by himself but he did the same things, had the same problems, plus was bored and drove the teachers crazy. He is constantly distracted by anything - the dog, the computer, music, finding something to eat, a paperclip, his pen (there are no whole pens in my house), arranging his reading area, whining, and he has drawings all over his notes - college will offer him constant distractions. I see him going off the deep end in college and not really noticing. I see him having trouble socially because, although he has many friends, he does not read people well and tends to attract kids who are hyper, risk takers, etc. I see him hitting the frat parties and finding a home there. Many people have told me to look for a college with support services but he doesn’t believe he needs any help. He honestly doesn’t see that he spends hours a day looking for lost thing, unknown assignments, his jacket, a pen, his wallet and his permission slips. Anyway, I can see him being very depressed an lost at school. If he doesn’t bond immediately with his floor kids he is going to make his way to the videogames and stay there for the whole semester. I jest, but he is going to be a challenge…</p>
<p>It all sounds so familiar!</p>
<p>I assume that medication has either been brought up or tried. Not that it’s a panacea, as some experts would have you believe.</p>