<p>“And you’ll usually find that a lot of gays are very intelligent.”</p>
<p>Why would their sexuality effect their intelligence?</p>
<p>Well, statistically speaking, the average gay male has more education (graduate degrees) and has a much higher income than an average straight male. </p>
<p>Although I think that might be the case because they are such a small population, and income and schooling tend to decrease as a studied group grows larger. The same is true for the SATs.</p>
<p>I had a gay roommate. We actually got along pretty well sincde we had the same major and a class together second semester. He wasnt obviously gay or super feminine, but he had his occasional moments. Changing was a little awkward, but most of the time i changed while he was sleeping (I had earlier classes) or if he was in the room he would usually move to his computer (and hence back facing me) when I came back from the shower.</p>
<p>The only thing I did before hand was that I was conscious of not saying “thats so gay”, f<em>g, f</em>ggot, etc. I used to use those weirds in HS but I stopped and for the most part in college everyone is really mature about it and dont say those things.</p>
<p>It was weird having a gay roommate the first week, but I kinda got over it I guess and we ended up being buddies, so if i was you i wouldnt sweat it. Just treat him like any other person, dont feel the necessity to change your conversations, etc.</p>
<p>my brother had a gay roommate, its fine, i don’t think they saw each other except when they went to sleep cause of different majors</p>
<p>i really don’t see what the problem is</p>
<p>I had a gay housemate and, like the poster above did, before I realized that he was gay would say things like “that’s so gay” and “he’s a ■■■■■■” not talking about gay people, but meant derogatorily. (This even though literally I had several gay friends and wasn’t generally homophobic.) When I saw my housemate flinch as I did this one day, I realized he might be gay and became ashamed and never used those words again. Banish these kinds of statements from your vocabulary; don’t assume like I had that your gaydar would keep you from making a hurtful statement in front of a gay person.</p>
<p>You probably have a better than average chance that he’ll be neat, though as with all generalizations, that could be very wrong. And if you keep an open mind, you’ll probably have the same chances that you are friends, or not, as you would with other roommates.</p>
<p>I haven’t had experience with this sort of thing–as I’m not in college and the only roommate I’ve ever had was straight (and brought her boyfriend over from time to time, which… well, at least he was nice)–but I do have a small contribution to make: </p>
<p>Lots of women really like gay men, so if he turns out to be gay, you might get to meet his female friends. :)</p>
<p>I’ve had to share a tent with one (long story). Wasn’t nearly as bad as I thought it would be, it was actually a good experience.</p>
<p>Id ask for a room change, you may catch the disease.</p>
<p>I have a really good friend who lived with me in summer camp. He is gay, and I never had a problem with it. He was just really a really interesting person to talk to, and he was really funny too. You just have to see something in them other than their homosexuality.</p>
<p>as long as he doesnt hit on you it will be perfectly fine. however, there is always the small chance he will… just let him know you arent interested.</p>
<p>Yeah. He should easily get the hint and that’ll be the end of it. I doubt that he’ll be throwing himself at you.</p>
<p>But be sure to watch what you say. I know that I get a little bothered by “that’s so gay” and infuriated by “you’re such a f**.” Be sensitive and nice, and I’m sure he’ll be the same to you.</p>
<p>Sooo… I’ve been assigned a roomate.</p>
<p>It doesn’t make a difference as long as you’re not homophobic and he’s not heterophobic. The only way it could be awkward is if he likes you and doesn’t follow the unstated roommate etiquette of just-plain-not-going there. I’m bisexual but would never, EVER hit on a roomate. It’s in the same realm for me as hitting on a friend’s SO - it’s just NOT okay. If he’s disrespectful of that, he’s probably just not a very respectful person. This all said, don’t judge too much based on facebook, sometimes you can’t quite tell. It’s better than myspace, but still not always the reality.</p>
<p>I had a gay roommate last year (my freshman year). He wasn’t openly gay, but it was extremely obvious. Anyway, there were no problems, no conflict, nothing. We had nothing in common anyways, so we never talked, but never fought either. The only thing I really hated was the incredibly effeminate music he listened to… got on my nerves, heh. But other than that, no problems.</p>
<p>If you want to know, when you introduce yourself tell him your straight. Might as well let him know your sexuality if you want him to be honest to you about his.</p>
<p>Also, gay guys make great wingmen.</p>
<p>do roommates usually see each other naked? I don’t know what’s acceptable. Don’t know if I should strip in the room or go to the bathroom? I don’t want to seem like I’m trying to seduce either of them (one is my bff). There seems to be a lot of nudity in the gym bathroom though (I’ve seen one of my professor naked.)</p>
<p>I had a gay roommate in college, and didn’t know she was gay until long after. Even in these modern days, similar things happen to many people. There are many gays who “look” and “act” straight.</p>
<p>My husband had a gay roommate in college. H knew the roommate was gay when H decided to live with him. Reason: Otherwise, they had lots in common including the same unusual major. Husband had no problems with the gay roommate, but ended up after getting tired of fending off passes by the roommate’s gay friends. I doubt that this is a typical situation. My guess is that the friends were a bit over zealous in promoting their sexual orientation.</p>
<p>Neither H nor I are homophobic, so we didn’t have to watch what we said, etc.</p>
<p>He’ll just be like anyone else, only difference is he’ll bring guys back with him on the weekend instead of girls.</p>
<p>hey. speaking as a gay INCOMING freshman, gay people are extremely diverse. Like me, for example, I don’t even conform to the stereotype of “gay” actions, which I think is redidculous. I don’t act too effiminate (i’m not masculine like straight men though,) but if he’s a cool person just let it be. I think labels are pathetic anyways.</p>
<p>Get out, man. GET OUT!!! I had a gay roomate once and he tried to mess with me while I was sleeping. Don’t take any chances.</p>