H doesn’t close the refrigerator door (one particular side) all the way. if I’m home I hear the beep but I’m not always home. I finally gave in and put a post-it note on the door. He also doesn’t close the pantry door all the way (it’s a slider.) Drives me crazy.
It is very hard to live with someone.
It also seems that one person is the one that does not mention the things about the other that bother them while the other spouse feels they have every right to point out the faults or bothersome habits of the other.
Speaking of seat belts, my H will not pull out of the driveway until mine is latched in place. For some reason this drives me crazy. 
I think it’s a habit he picked up when the kids were little. Except that I’m not a kid.
At least he cares. It just triggers my rebellious side. 
I will purposefully not pull on my seat belt Very mature, I know.
Love that guy, and glad he loves me!
I won’t drive the car if anyone’s seatbelt is not fastened. Basic safety.
When my DH drives my car at night, he messes with the headlights. WHY?? They are AUTOMATIC??? Then I don’t always recognize that the headlights aren’t on b/c I assume they will come on automatically. DON’T TOUCH THE %^)& LIGHTS!
Oh, and he has the same brand car, so its not like he doesn’t know how the lights work!
I also won’t drive until everyone’s seatbelt is fastened.
Seat-belt-waiters - you do this with your spouse?
For some reason this has never occurred to me, hence the reason it drives me crazy when my H does it. The only time I ever did that was with our children and their friends.
With other adults, I guess I assume they will do the right thing. Obviously I don’t zoom out of the driveway on purpose before everyone is belted, but I don’t remind people or wait either, unless the person is disabled or it’s my elderly mother-in-law who moves more slowly.
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ETA: I like seat belts - that’s not the issue.
Husband won’t listen to my voice mail - he would rather call me back and have me repeat what I already left him a message about. I’m very good about creating contacts in my Outlook and forwarding those contact cards to my H and kids - H will never open and save them so I have become his yellow pages, he asks me for everyone’s phone and address all the time when I’ve sent to him repeatedly and told him to save it. I create calendar appointments for all the family events and things he needs to attend/keep up with along with reminders and invite him - all he has to do is open and save and it’s on his calendar. But no, he’d rather just ask me -he thinks I’m his secretary and sometimes it just gets to me and I let loose on him. I am a planner, he is not but he seems to always get by.
@nrdsb4, some one pointed out I leave cabinet doors open and in thinking about it, usually it happens when my hands are full and if I closed them, they would sort of slam, or be overly rough or loud in smacking closed
then when my hands are empty, apparently I have forgotten to go back and close them, I am trying to work on that
DH flosses loudly and with a big “thrum” to each pop of floss, in bed, I cannot stand it, so I usually leave the room.
“I also won’t drive until everyone’s seatbelt is fastened.”
Ditto.
Doesn’t matter who it is. I won’t even back up without everyone being buckled.
My husband will be happy so many agree with him. 
Seatbelts: Basic safety. If i am driving it’s my liability if someone is hurt. My car, my rules. And working in healthcare and dealing with head injury- this is non-negotiable.
Just spoke to DH by phone. He drove my car last night. I asked if he messed with the lights. Response: “Probably”.
DH. and DS’s do not listen to VMs. They say they see I’ve called and will call back.They prefer a text. I will leave a VM b/c I’ll typically forget why I called by the time they call back #-o
I think I’m the annoying spouse. I really shouldn’t complain right now while I recover from shoulder surgery and he’s doing all cooking and cleaning and I’m leaving caps off everything because I can’t open things.
But…my pet peeves revolve around how loud he is and how ocd he is about things being clean.
He stomps downstairs at 4am and unloads the dishwasher slamming doors and dishes. He talks loud.
He cleans constantly. Seriously I can go to the bathroom and come back and find my glass is gone and in the dishwasher. When the kids were little and excited he was home he’d go clean out the sink before engaging with the family. We have a weekly cleaning person to help a little, but he literally can’t sit still for more than 15 minutes before jumping up to do some task. I used to try and help with all of this but it didn’t help. He just jumped up and pulled out everything from the fridge to clean it out. It’s clean as a whistle. He walked by now to empty the trash can in the family room that had one envelope in it. People say it’s wonderful who don’t live with it.
A PhD student from another galaxy is reading this thread, and concluding that 99% of annoying habits in humans come from the guy.
FYI
http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parent-cafe/1807823-do-you-use-voicemail-p1.html
Your husband has a lot of company for hating voicemail
I consider 99% of the odd things my wife does as part of what makes her her. As in, I clear the microwave each time I walk by. It’s like my youngest leaving cups all over: I’d love to have her young again and doing that. Both of them, btw, can’t hang up a towel flat; they flop it over the towel bar in a wad. It’s a trait.
What bothers me are: a) she doesn’t turn on the fan when she showers and then complains that the grout gets moldy. Well … b) she does a lot of things by force without looking, as in she jammed the latch shut on the kitchen casement window without making sure the window was properly closed and that bent the mechanism so now I have to get on a ladder behind the house to see if I can fix it. Or rather than check why the cheese drawer isn’t closing, she’ll jam it in, which is why we’re now on the 2nd cheese drawer. I fairy often leap up to stop her from forcing something open or closed. It’s weird because her dad was not only a contractor but a fine craftsman who made boats and constructed a huge, delicate model train layout.
Yes as the saying that getting married is like adopting a grown child whose parents have kicked him out. 
Just kidding, but I do that to all adults. Actually sometimes adults are too busy talking and forget about the seat belt part. But my car does beep to remind me too.
Not the case in my marriage. We don’t bicker all that much, but he’s not shy about expressing frustration with some of my quirks.
But we do know a guy who claimed to be the most tolerant person ever. He said in disgust that he would never make an issue over such stupid stuff like this.
Until one day he did…and 15 years of repressed annoyances came out so viciously, he said things that could never be taken back. They couldn’t get over it, and eventually divorced. He now lets his second wife know when he’s annoyed, even around other people sometimes. Seems like maybe the concept of happy medium has been lost.
Well, everyone is different I guess. If I pulled out of the driveway and someone hit me and my unbelted passenger was injured, I would feel partially responsible. Only partially responsible mind you, but since I can control when that car backs out of the driveway, it would be impossible for me to say it was all on them, adult or not.
I knew of a person in my town who pulled out of a shopping center and her adult daughter was not belted in yet, don’t know if the daughter did that as a habit or if this was a one time thing. A speeding car hit them, killing the daughter. I’m guessing the mom would do it differently if she could, even if she did come off as being controlling with another full grown adult.
I think because of my experiences working in a trauma ICU, my feelings about this issue might be more extreme than the average Joe’s. I can acknowledge that.
My husband is also quick to put cups away in the dishwasher too.
My husband loves to pontificate. He can lecture endlessly! When my kids were little and got in trouble, they’d say, “Mom, can you just SPANK me? Please don’t let Dad lecture me!” I know he means well, but I’ve asked him repeatedly not to do this. Oh, well, he’s still a gem, so I shouldn’t complain.