I think AOs understand that kids applying to BS need their parents to make all those things happen. Someone has to drive, pay, etc. Some families are set up to do this better than others.
But once they are at school, it’s what the kid can do there. The schools are looking for a mix of kids. Many are looking for ones who can wear more than one hat. A kid who has done well in math competition is at a minimum going to do well in math class. Hopefully they’ll contribute to the math team. But how many of those does one school need? And what else do they bring? That’s why they don’t all get in.
If this is your passion, own it. And @iusedtobesmart , don’t sweat your "narrative ".