<p>kay, all I was doing was responding to the wording in 190:</p>
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<p>I have a problem with influencing using coercive means or threats. I have no issue with a parent suggesting it, discussing it or anything else of the like.</p>
<p>Lake, I don’t really discuss money with other people IRL. I don’t care that much. What they do with their money is their business and it’s not my place to ask. Often, they end up telling me whether I want to know or not though… In Michigan, you can get very nice houses for not that much money. I have never had a trust or an inheritance or an estate or anything of the sort. So again, for me, I can’t imagine having enough money that a pre-nup would be necessary. On the same vein, I cannot imagine my parents’ money ever buying me a house.</p>
<p>My sense, especially with the divorce rate so high, that wealthy parents who buy or contribute a lot of money to the purchase of such a large ticket item might very well strongly suggest (as in require), their child to take out a prenup. </p>
<p>The argument typically being that the money should stay aligned with being able to pass on to grandchildren (blood line), not to the divorced spouse’s pocket.</p>
<p>And that could very well be. But again, I just can’t imagine having that type of money. And I couldn’t imagine marrying into any family that had that level of control over my spouse. It’s just not my personality. </p>
<p>If it works for some families, it works for them. I just won’t be a part of that family :). They wouldn’t want me anyway :p</p>
<p>Roman, but if you stick to your principal of not interfering, its not choice, its your childs. </p>
<p>And I think it is a question of semantics, if parents say we will give you the house, we want a prenup. But you (you, the child) dont have to get a prenup. But we dont have to give you the house.</p>
<p>Right… it is the child’s. I’m not sure where we’re disagreeing. I don’t like the term “make” someone do something. </p>
<p>If my parents gave me that option, I’d pick not to have the house or the prenup. I wouldn’t want those kind of strings. Again, my choice. And if my partner chose the house and the pre-nup over standing up to his/her parents, then they wouldn’t be the right partner for me. </p>
<p>All of this is just my opinion about myself and my own life. I’ve made that perfectly clear in all of my posts. I have no interest in how other families chose to do things. I’ve said that other families might do it differently. I don’t like strings attached but AGAIN, I couldn’t imagine being a family with that much money where there were strings attached to something like that.</p>
<p>On the Today Show this morning…</p>
<p>[Raising</a>, rearing and wrangling with your ?adultescent? child - books - TODAY.com](<a href=“http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/47864068/ns/today-books/]Raising”>http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/47864068/ns/today-books/)</p>
<p>Thanks for posting, fogfog - loved it!</p>
<p>A recent quote on FB…worth sharing…</p>
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<p>fogfog,</p>
<p>I love it! I will use it on my kids!</p>