Staying in Carmel CA for a month

@Nrdsb4 …just reading the current updates today. I am so sorry about your brother, sending healing vibes your way. I can relate as twice a family member has passed away or close to vacations. It can be frustrating, we are just humans.

I did want to address your fear of cliffs, as I have the same. When we did our CA trip about 5 years ago, I made sure we only traveled south to north, so we would hug the side. I was really astonished at how close the highway was to the edge of the drop offs with no guards. Even traveling the way we did, I wasn’t able to look toward the ocean side many times and had sweaty palms. Like you, I don’t think I enjoyed it as much as DH. He has the habit of looking where I’m looking when he’s driving or over at me. I had to finally snap at him that I wasn’t having a good time and can’t enjoy the scenery when he takes his eyes off the road…so could he PLEASE watch the road while I take a minut or do to enjoy it. I don’t know how you did it going from north to south! I also had a very hard time driving back from Muir Woods in SF area. I was about in tear.

Anyway, glad you made it to Hearst Castle. It really is amazing, and those views are incredible. Did you get to watch the little film first? I think that added a lot!

Have a great remainder of the month!

D1 and her BF arrived on day 11. There is a shuttle from San Jose airport to Monterey, so we didn’t have to make a long drive to pick them up. They had flown in from Raleigh/Durham and had gotten up very early, so D was feeling really off and headachey. I canceled our dinner reservations and we picked up stuff to grill on the way back from the airport. They did go with us on a long walk around Carmel beach and town, which helped her to feel a little better.

Day 12 we all headed out to Point Lobos. We started out at seal beach and saw lots of seals, sea lions, and otters. BF had good binoclulars, so we were all able to enjoy the views of the animals. It was freezing on that side of the park, with a wicked north wind. BF and DH had not brought jackets, but they didn’t complain. We ended up hiking 7 miles in total that day (I tracked it with my bike app), a lot of it on uphill climbs. D and her BF are big time hikers and lead the way. DH and I try to stay fit, so we were able to do it, but we did indeed bring up the rear. On the road back into town afterwards, we got stuck in a traffic jam due to a wreck. I’m talking literal standstill/turn off your engine and just sit there traffic jam. I called a restaurant I’d read about towards Big Sur and they had available tables, so we hooked a u-turn and went to Rocky Point Restaurant. It has stunning views of the ocean, good food and drinks, and it was a great way to wait out the traffic mess.

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We all napped hard after our long hikes and good meal. That night we visited our other great view restaurant, the one at the Hyatt Carmel Highlands. Pricey but it’s really all about the view.

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The next day, we drove the scary ride back to Big Sur to show the kids the scenery, and hiked some more at Garland Ranch Regional Park. This one has some serious elevations, so we split up and let the young folks do their uphill climbs, while DH kept me company on the easy stuff. After hiking so much the day before, I just wasn’t up for more of the tough uphill stuff. I don’t think DH was either, but I let him think he was sacrificing for my sake

Today we took BF to the airport in Monterey, relaxed around the house, then visited two wineries with D in sunny Carmel Valley. Fun, and tasted some good wines,but didn’t love anything enough to purchase. Ended up on yet another scary drive up a mountain with amazing views, but I was just done on scary drives and inwardly pouted. I really need to figure out a way to get over this phobia.

Tomorrow we have a BIG day trip planned.

Day 16 we made the long trek to Yosemite National Park. DH has been harping on doing this since we planned the trip. I told him I thought it was silly to do such a long day trip to YNP. He responded “sometimes it’s journey, not the destination.” My retort was “yes, but some places really are the destination. This is one of them. It’s not a one day deal.” D1’s tie breaking vote was a resounding validation of DH’s position. So at the crack of dawn, off we went.

The drive into the park had some beautiful stretches. Northern California is just a gorgeous place. If it’s not the ocean, it’s beautiful hills/vinyards or majestic mountains. If it’s none of those, it’s glorious forests with breathtakingly tall trees. As you enter on Hwy 140, you are surrounded on both sides by incredible rock formations that jut vertically to the sky; you follow a beautiful stream that made me think I was in a Coor’s beer commercial. After entering the park, we stopped along the way to see various sights, such as El Capitain, with its absolutely insane climbers making their way up. No amount of money could persuade me to attempt such a thing. We saw several waterfalls, visited the historic Majestic Hotel (formerly known as the Ahwanhee Hotel), and walked a good bit. Per usual, D1 wanted to do an uphill hike. I wasn’t feeling great-it’s only 4000 feet elevation, but I felt a little out of breath for some reason, so I bowed out and let them do their hike. I explored what I could at base level and met back up with them later. We got enough of a taste of the park to know we’d like to come back and do it justice. As late afternoon went into evening, we made the long drive home.

Attack of the Killer Bees

We spent the next few days lazily enjoying the general area. D1 flew home and was replaced with my California cousin, and her DH; my Dad (a CA native) flew in from Texas the same day. After his arrival, Dad wanted to take a walk. We walked all the way to Clint Eastwood’s place, the Mission Ranch Inn, to meet the rest of the crew for dinner, which is probably 3 miles away. Dad is 81, but he walks fast, so fast it is hard for me to keep up. Still, I could tell that walk was a challenge for him. At least it was mostly level. For those of you not familiar with Carmel, it is a grid of quaint streets that are laid in a steep descent to the ocean below. Our rental is on the down side, only one street away from the ocean, which is a lovely walk after dinner in the evenings, but very challenging when going up to town. Dad would always insist on walking to town and would resist stopping to rest, which worried me, as I could tell he was working pretty hard. But he is stubborn.

DH flew home for several days to work on an important business deal, but I had my family here, so all was well. My cousin and her DH have bad knees, so one day they rebelled against the incline and insisted we drive up and park for lunch. That was fine, but it was a beautiful day, so after lunch I told them to go home without me so I could walk a bit and enjoy the sunshine and fresh air.

I was almost down to the bottom of town, when through my thin long sleeved shirt, I felt something stinging my arm. I looked down and saw a bee on my arm. When I tried to brush it off, I realized several bees were buzzing around me, stinging me repeatedly. I ran off, trying to get away, but a few followed me, seemingly quite angry/aggressive. One even got caught in my hair, which set me off in a panic. It finally managed to free itself and got me one last time before I was able to get away from them. I have no idea why they attacked me. I had not brushed up against any vegetation or stepped on a nest or anything. There were a lot of other people walking in my vicinity (this was “Car Week,” when the town is invaded by hundreds of classic cars, expensive sports cars, and tourists of many nationalities for a week of festivities), none of whom seemed to be bothered.

When I got home, my horrified family went to work, providing benadryl, an ice pack, and a heroine in the form of my cousin, who brought out the tweezers to pull out all the stingers. I had at least 8 stings, just on my arm. All of these interventions helped, and within hours, the stinging subsided a bit and the swelling decreased. As of today, several days later, my arm is covered with angry red patches, but they mainly just itch a bit. My cousin is an over packer, and she happened to have anti itch gel, which has helped greatly.

Cousin went home, and Dad and I explored the area a bit more and even made it out to the Monterey Aquarium. Another cousin came to visit (all of Dad’s family lives in CA), and everyone went home yesterday. I am enjoying the solitude. The only down side is that now I’m very wary when walking around town. Morbid thoughts of future bee stings and anaphylaxis bother me as I walk by the VAST amounts of floral vegetation that make Carmel so beautiful. All I need is another phobia. Sigh.

On a positive note, DH returns tomorrow for our last week here.

Nrds4, my deepest sympathies to you and your family about your brother.

Thanks for taking us along on your trip. I live in Northern California and have been many of the places you’re describing but your descriptions make me want to go see it all again! Please continue to share.

@Nrdsb4 so sorry to hear about the stings! I’m wondering if those were yellow jackets, instead? The yellow jackets in my part of the Bay Area are very aggressive, whereas the bees just go about their business from flower to flower.

We have had tons more yellow jackets this year in Northern CA than years past. Our local vector control said that it was because of the very wet winter. The yellow jackets are everywhere now…I had a huge swarm of them in my backyard last weekend during a party - thankfully none of my guests were stung. The only good part about the yellow jackets is that they seem to go back to wherever they came from at dusk.

@vineyardview, I don’t know. Do they leave their stingers in you? I certainly had them in my skin. But it would explain the aggressiveness, which I would not expect from typical bees.

Hmm, I’m more and more thinking you may be right. I had many stings, but not every single one of them left stingers, but certainly there were some. These guys were downright angry, so it does make a lot more sense.

@Nrdsb4 yes, they do leave stingers. My daughter was stung by a yellow jacket just a few weeks ago, and I had a hard time removing the stinger.