<p>When DD sublet her room, she asked me if she was obligated to share with her roommate, the roommate did not sublet and did not ask for $ from DD, but DD considered it and she felt that the RM did not make much effort to find a tenant and did not want to offer a share of her money.</p>
<p>The real lesson is to make sure things are fair in the beginning! One of my DDs has had at least 8 years of assorted roommates and this is the kid who wants everything to be fair, which rarely happens in a group of 4 girls in an apartment or a group of 20 girls renting rooms in a big house. Ha! The last couple of years there were discrepancies in the ‘value’ of the rooms and they endeavored to find rental rate differences at which they would not care which room they got, that the rent difference = the room difference.</p>
<p>Rough lesson, but a good one!</p>
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<p>This. My D has had her share of roommate angst, no question, and a lot of it has involved finances. Having everything straight at the beginning heads a lot of problems off at the pass.</p>
<p>good questions, GGD paragraphs 3 and 4 from your post 16. They are the very questions I asked in post 10 and so far are unaddressed.
If the op feels it’s fair to require other student(s) to chip in if D doesn’t sublet, does op want D to be required to chip in for others if they don’t sublet?</p>
<p>Or, here’s a new wrinkle- If the D is able to sublet her room for more than she is paying herself, should she have to give some of the extra to the other roommate? Surely, if it’s fair for one student to have to make up the obligation of another if there is a shortfall, then it must be fair for that one student must share the bonus if it occurred, too. Right?</p>
<p>Actually, since the girls have the same circle of friends, I would totally be fine only getting a partial rent break instead of a larger one if only D’s room rented. </p>
<p>Of course, I am also totally aware that there could soon be another mother posting here saying, “My D and her friend are letting two new girls move into their apartment and now they tell us that they are going to study abroad half the year and want to sublease their rooms to strangers!”</p>
<p>They have to apply and be chosen for the study abroad programs, so it’s not certain that either or both of them will go. And OF COURSE it’s just me, the bill payer, who is thinking of ways to not pay double rent…D, who is not the bill payer, has no worries…</p>
<p>It could be an issue when the time comes to sublet, if the person that your D or other roommate want to sublet to someone that the other to girls don’t want. There is a reasonableness circle here that gets breached any time someone goes beyond. </p>
<p>I am so glad now that i did not know the going ons of my son’s house and housemates while he was in college. Yes, I’d be upset as they took in vagrants and hobos, at times, and my son is doing the same pretty much right now, and I have the distinct feeling that their method of vetting these people would not meet any of our screens. </p>
<p>I wish mine would just friggin stay in university housing.</p>
<p>I’m sorry, I don’t understand this:
“I would totally be fine only getting a partial rent break instead of a larger one if only D’s room rented.” from post 24. Do you mean you want a partial rent break if D sublets her room?
And I’m hoping for your answers to posts 10, 16, and 23 Missy…</p>
<p>^Ummm… from reading that sentence it’s clear that Missypie would be okay sharing the rent from her D’s room with the other roommate if other roommate was unable to sublet for some reason. </p>
<p>Missypie, I feel you on this one. College students who are new to the whole renting/lease signing/negotiating thing often don’t get the process right the first few times. I remember feeling like I learned so much from my first apartment, and that I knew what things to look out for with the next one.</p>
<p>You are going to think I’m a ■■■■■ or am just making this up but I have to share anyway. D and her friend had a long talk with her friend’s mother about the whole Study Abroad idea. The mom - absolutely on her own (I hadn’t even shared my idea with D) - said that if they could only sublease her D’s room, they would share the proceeds with D. She even came up with the idea of using D’s room for storage. Both girls are very far from home and go to school where none of the students bring cars (and where storage space is pricey), so it would be quite an operation to move their things into storage for a sublet.</p>
<p>Sounds like a wonderful outcome. The other girl will be voluntarily offering to chip in toward Missys’ D room. That is so much more pleasant than trying to say the other D should have to chip in more. Truly sounds like a great compromise, esp since it was at the suggestion of the more marketable room D.
Well done!</p>
<p>An excellent idea all round! Both fair and imaginative. :)</p>
<p>I am glad that such a solution was reached.</p>
<p>However, there was absolutely no requirement for such an offer. When your kid strikes a lousy deal on an off campus room, you cannot expect the other kids and their parents to “even things up”. It’s great when it is done, but they don’t have to do so.</p>
<p>Happy ending solution. :)</p>