<p>silverseas, you are taking the first, most important step, which is to recognize the unique nature of your son and to seek advice in this situation.
I am reading into your post that your son is socially awkward…is this the case?
If so, I think that your first concern could be working on the life skills of engaging with others socially. If he indeed needs help in this area, it would be important to get some coaching before he goes to college…so that he can negotiate the many social challenges that he will face. He may need help in learning how to ask others questions about themselves, how to act interested in others during conversation, how to read cues, how to tell when others are joking, how to use communication techniques that some call “therapeutic communication” but actually work in just normal conversation, and more. Perhaps he works on these at school, but if he does not, perhaps you could ask administrators at the school about this.
If you can’t find a way to get coaching for him, you could try a program such as Dale Carnegie or the like.
Good luck!</p>