<p>wis75, I am not talking about not following average pace for dating and marriage - that pace has changed quite a bit from our day anyhow! The OP has a son who was going to be placed in a class for emotionally disturbed children. Rather than do that, the OP sent him to a private school, where he kicked the headmaster in 6th grade after the headmaster picked him up. We do not know why the headmaster picked him up. The OP then sent him to a tiny alternative school. I think that the OP is extremely wise to consider a community college. However, I think that the OP needs to look into the future for him…and it sounds like the OP IS noticing problems with social interactions, but has avoided “labeling” him with formal diagnoses. I would strongly urge the OP to consider the social aspects of how this young man is going to make it on his own someday and try to do something about it. I am not convinced that it will just “kick in” by itself…there have been indicators from way back that this is just not a typically developing young man. I just hate to see a young person at risk because normal developmental tasks have not been resolved.</p>