<h2>“Keep in mind that on the Sunday before he smashed through Yeardley Love’s door, George V spent the entire day drinking—starting with beer in the morning, then wine at dinner, and more beer into the night. Who was by his side from breakfast through drunken swings at golf balls and that wine at dinner? His father, George Huguely IV. Not one of the teammates or roommates who testified in court mentioned the father admonishing the son.”</h2>
<p>Yes, and the dad was certainly no role model for this son…he was a drinking party boy himself. It amazes me that there are parents that behave this way, but there are. The sins of the father…</p>
<p>I can’t stand to look at that picture of Yeardley. She is so beautiful and sweet looking. I just can’t believe this happened. What a sad, volatile relationship she had with George and if only he had not gone to her apartment that night or if she wasn’t home… I hate it.</p>
<p>I have observed parents drinking along with their kids at my s’s parents’ weekend at a nearby Va college. It shocked me, how much they drank. When I talked with my s about this he agreed, it’s not something we were familiar with in our social circles, this was also a wealthy, preppy group, and it seemed a common, and accepted practice. No relationship at s’s school to Lacrosse, my sense was it was socially reinforced within their particular circles. </p>
<p>Any indication by me that perhaps this was inappropriate was met with incredulity. That defensive reaction is typical of what you see from people who are alcohol dependent/alcoholic. It’s very difficult to penetrate that mentality especially when the groupthink is “this is NORMAL.” In that way I feel for the other UVA students who knew of George’s issue, and considered an intervention, where would they get support to do so? certainly not the families enabling these behaviors. Very sad. A preventable death. </p>
<p>Also too bad George’s attorney didn’t think to take the path of honesty, true remorse, and true spirituality; ie. "George was devastated that his alcohol infused violence killed Yeardley, and has recognized his alcoholism and how it contributed to this tragic behavior. " from what the jurors reported, that might have helped him see a manslaughter conviction. </p>
<p>Sad that even in the end, none of them, George, his family, his attorneys seemed to see that their continued arrogance and manipulation; blaming Yeardley’s ADHD medication, or her own actions, or minimizing his behavior as “what college kids do” would potentially result with him in jail for many years. That inability to see how George was perceived by many is a tragic flaw.</p>
<p>The other thing that has bothered me all along and that has not been talked about much was that the door to the apartment was left unlocked. That door would have probably kept him out. So many what-ifs.</p>
<p>Much as barrons does, barrons’ children, Nrdsb4 and children, and pretty much every other person on the planet. The fact that she was not perfect, had faults, etc. doesn’t make it any less tragic either. It’s still incredibly sad. She might have gone on to do good things and make a special mark on the world. And regardless of her faults, he had absolutely no right to do what he did and he needed to be taken off the streets as he would likely have hurt the next girl he dated who “had plenty of faults” as well.</p>
<p>Amen, MD Mom. I can’t help thinking of how Yeardley’s sister’s life will never be the same. A sister can’t be replaced, her children won’t have cousins or an aunt, at least on her side of the family. Lots of missing people going forward. </p>
<p>It does sound as if the defense strategy (blame Yeardley, portray George’s behavior as “normal”) backfired in a big way.</p>
<p>No the sad thing is that that may not be true at all. I know two couples very well who had abuse in the relationshps from passive/aggressive type abuse to all out hitting both couples split and went on to other people and had wonderful lives. Plus my H had an abusive/dynamite relationship when he was younger and many of his friends regaled me with stories in the early days of our dating of not only what he did, but what she did. We’ve been married 25 years and I never once had a concern. Sometimes there are weird dynamics between two people that may not manifest with other partners.</p>
<p>who is without faults. I can’t stand blaming the victim. He was found guilty because he was guilty. nothing she did had a thing to do with him murdering her.</p>
<p>I would be willing to be that those are the exceptions rather than the rule. If Huguley continued drinking and did not get therapy for his anger problems, I think the odds are that he would continue to abuse in future relationships. The fact that he was belligerent to a female police officer (he allegedly threatened her life) to the point that it was necessary to subdue him with a stun gun does not lead me to believe the volatility of his relationship with Yeardley was some huge departure for him. I find it difficult to believe that his abusive behavior would have magically disappeared and he would have gone on to have a “wonderful life” without serious intervention in the form of rehab for his alcohol problem and some serious therapy for his other issues.</p>
<p>If you read my post and the few before you should be able to figure out my post. Pointing out she was not perfect was just in response to some of the somewhat, in my opinion, over the top posts about her. She was what she was and it is not really important to the case at hand in my mind. </p>
<p>Reactions around C’Ville. Also must serve 85% of sentence by Va law.</p>
<p>I fully realize she was not perfect and I would not EXPECT her to be perfect. That doesn’t change anything about how I feel about the murder. No one is turning her into a saint, but she was a beautiful and talented young woman.</p>
<p>And if she had been ugly and a drug addict would the outcome have been the same? Probably not. I bet the recommended sentence would have been much lower.</p>
<p>From the article MD Mom linked * For lacrosse parents, a tragedy too familiar - The mix of pressure, prestige and alcohol that led to the murder of Yeardley Love by George Huguely strikes too close to home*</p>
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Has this incident served as a wake up call? Will things change?</p>