My older son was a bit picky about dorms. He really wanted his own room in a suite. That way, if he were tired or needed to study, he could just close the door and not disturb anyone or be disturb. He got what he wanted as an undergrad and loved it. Today, he’s in law school, and most of his friends live with one or two people. He chose to live by himself in a tiny, but very nice apartment. Again, he likes it. The only person he has to worry about picking up after is him. My younger son, who never said anything about housing, surprised me when he said he wanted to be in a suite-style dorm with his own bedroom. He got what he wanted, but his dorm was much older and not nearly as nice as what his brother had as an undergrad.
There is nothing wrong with being picky about housing. My kids are not spoiled. They know what they liked and what they do not like. They enjoy their alone time.