<p>I think parents can help by talking up the safeties before the decisions come out. Talk about how great all the schools on the list are.</p>
<p>And then, when the decisions come out, talk down the schools that rejected your kid. Remind him of their disadvantages, and why you were never convinced they were a good fit for him in the first place. Do your best to hide your own disappointment, and emphasize how proud you are that he’ll be going to such a great school. While he may not show it, he cares what you think and it will hurt worse if he also thinks he’s disappointed you. Say, “Your strategy worked and you’re going to a great school that’s a great fit for you.”</p>