<p>I’m not sure that Twenge or anyone else is saying that kids can just stop being deluded. However, the trend as a whole is reversible. We just need to start focusing on achievement and not self-esteem and not effort in young grades. Again, I agree that the upper grades are achievement-oriented to a degree, but the sense of entitlement (which may be a separate issue, although I don’t think so) leads to lax standards and parental involvement: Why should my child ever have to face failure? This mentality needs to stop.</p>
<p>I definitely don’t have wildly unrealistic expectations. People around me definitely do. My parents have unrealistic expectations for me. My teachers have unrealistic expectations for me. But as for me, I’ve been on CC enough to know that these expectations are just that… unrealistic.</p>
<p>I can understand it…
When I’m aiming for 80 point on the test… I usually get like 60 points… When I aim for 100 points… I usually get 90 or something… never get the score I expect… ;(</p>
<p>lol well i certainly don’t feel overconfident…and i think a lot of teenagers are the opposite in fact…that’s why so many teenagers are suicidal…idk where this article is getting the info but it’s definitely not accurate.</p>
<p>Overconfidence and unrealistic expectations are definitely a problem. It’s one thing to face reality, and it’s another to live in a society which continually perpetuates a false ideal.</p>
<p>Look at some of the fundamental problems in the economy. America is a country where millions of people have taken on massive debt to fund their “expectations” of big screen TV’s, brand new cars, white picket fences in the suburbs and private school tuition.</p>
<p>Most people can’t afford that, but they think they can and as a result we’re all paying the price.</p>
<p>speaking as a teen,
i think most ambitious teens think in terms of “you never know what you can do unless you take the risks” and then they take the risks…at least we’re fostering a progressive generation!</p>
<p>after all, society tell teens that its OK to have dreams, and its OK to chase them… with enough luck and preparation, who knows, someday…?</p>
<p>perhaps overconfidence and unrealistic expectations are just the basis of a teen’s OPTIMISM! Why can’t we be allowed to hope for the best and not be judged so harshly?</p>
<p>I think that’s the problem that IS killing America right now…years of debt borrowing to buy what you can’t afford so you can show off to your friends who now know you were bsing them when your house got foreclosed on lol. Unrealistic expectations indeed…</p>
<p>By the time my third child entered grade school, I had had enough of the foolish self-esteem propaganda. So when D came home with an assignment to write about why her family was special, I confess to using the poor child’s homework to make a point to the teacher. I dictated to her some humorous comments about how completely ordinary we are, which is the honest truth. I fully expected that because of her apparent low self-image, D would be sent to the school counselor to be evaluated or something. She did get put in a special mentoring program afterward, lol.</p>
<p>^ Woah lol, did you at least explain to her teachers that it was just your ulterior motives doing the talking, and that she didn’t have any psychological problems?</p>
<p>Anyway, I’m predicting that the youth of today will be inescapably buried in debt due to their (that is, our) inflated self-esteem.</p>
<p>I must not suffer from this. I’m so tight with my money that I cut back spending when I spend a third of my paycheck. I also purposely leave my car parked for most of the time and just go to town with my parents when they go, so I don’t have to waste money on gas. And I’ll be lucky if I make $50,000 per year. There’s a difference between ambition and expecting things to happen by themselves.</p>
<p>A generation has been/is being raised wearing t-shirts that say “I am the queen.” That right there signals a major problem. And there is a polarity that exists among (and within) youth today of an “unrealistic expectations” and an underdevelopment of self-efficacy.</p>
<p>“Furthermore, research shows that high school teachers now give out “A” grades more easily than they in the 1970s, even though students do less homework today than they did 30 years ago.” </p>
<p>That’s ridiculous…definitely not true for my school at all</p>