<p>This is what happens when parents, teachers, and peers tell us “SUPER GREAT JOB!” when we’ve only done a mediocre job, and/or that “anything is possible.” I’m constantly encouraged and complimented by my parents, but I NEVER take it to heart anymore. I realize I’m not NEARLY as good as they would have me believe, and it actually just ****es me off when they try so hard to make me feel good about myself. For example, I usually have my mother review my writing before I turn the paper in to the teachers for a grade, and I always get the same feedback: “that was incredible” usually immediately followed by “you should be a writer,” and I used to believe my mother when she would encourage my writing, but now I’m approaching the college age and realizing that my writing is just average (and even that might be a stretch) when compared to my peers. It’s frustrating and it even makes me depressed, meaning the shower of compliments that once made me feel so good is now working counter-intuitively to it’s intentions. I’d much prefer criticism so I can improve ratherr than empty words of encouragement.</p>
<p>So parents please I beg you, don’t feed your children compliments and encouragement, unless it’s truly deserved.</p>
<p>lol really, my parents always told me to do better, even when i got A’s. one time i came home and showed my parents my all A’s hoping for a congraulatory hug or something, but instead I got a lecture on why I didnt get a A+. I started cracking up and just left.</p>
<p>But yea im a student, and i love when people say good job and i have to admit my ego does grow when someone says that, but soon it goes down cause I am not constanttly hit by it. So students should be told good job, but should be criticized as well.</p>