So am I just screwed? I didn’t choose to have an abusive parent. I can provide documentation of abuse that has basically ruined my childhood. How can I ever move on? I promise you: he has no intention of paying. Whenever he HAS ever done anything good for me, he just used the opportunity to manipulate and to hurt me more. He has never done anything good just for the sake of doing something good, I promise. I need to cut contact with him as soon as I turn 18, for the sake of my own sanity. Shouldn’t universities be able to be empathetic to this situation?