Support for LateToSchool

<p>3boysnjmom, I have run across Raymond Chang’s name several times; the people who have been to see him report outstanding results. </p>

<p>What is IBS?</p>

<p>Epistrophy, that last post is shocking. My experience isn’t anything like hers - I am not on oxygen, any meds, etc… and, how can surgery be said to “not work”…</p>

<p>Delicate Arch, would it surprise you to know that I do not actually own a pair of pants that has an elastic waist band?</p>

<p>Marite, what do you mean by another person’s blood, still? I imagined that over time your own red cell/ white cell production would replace the other person’s right?</p>

<p>IBS= Irritable Bowel Syndrome----I think…</p>

<p>Is that an immune system disorder, 3boysnjmom?</p>

<p>lts, Interesting to learn that you’ve heard Raymond Chang’s name and those working with him are pleased. I see from his Web site that his staff does phone and email consults.</p>

<p>poetsheart is right – IBS is Irritable Bowel Syndrome --but I don’t know if it’s an immune disorder. My college student has had symptoms on and off for several years following international travel – nothing specific has been diagnosed (lactose allergy and celiac disease have been ruled out) so GI MD near child’s college lumped it into this category.</p>

<p>Ha, Ha. No, it doesn’t surprise me at all to discover you own no elastic waist pants! It fits perfectly with what I DO know about you.</p>

<p>Maybe the new and improved LTS - the one who walks away from the flood disaster, who smiles through the smell of the burned wig, who dreams of Miami while getting ready for the swamp that DC turns into in the summer time, the one who doesn’t take “No” for an anser, and the one who will (as I’ve said before) take all this and write a best seller - maybe this new and improved LTS will branch out into the world of elastic waist pants! Woot! Way to go.</p>

<p>What you can look forward to: One time when my sister was looking at some of my clothes she signed and said, well, I guess it’s “university-chic” .</p>

<p>Delicate Arch, would it surprise you to know that I do not actually own a pair of pants that has an elastic waist band?
you guys are killing me. Not even ONE pair of elastic slacks, LTS? you are Legion, you are hard core, you are never ever going to be surprised by the What Not to Wear team. You set the standards.</p>

<p>so glad your daughter had revived. our son has a couple thousand dollars of damage to his car, but only a couple hours of medical attention and he is fine… I had to nudge him from afar about…getting the car more critically looked at up on risers…“look, ma! it is hardly hurt at all…just a little bumper damage.”<br>
Once it was up in the air, the mechanic reports the steel bar that Honda puts in there behind the bumper was destroyed by the impact…it is there for just this sort of surprise slam by the scantily clad, smoking with baby in tow, cell phone using uninsured motorist who drove into his rear end. Thank you Honda. I mean it is not a Volvo…but it did its job. All of the air bags in the car that plowed into him where he was stopped went off with a bang. My son got out of his car and found a woman and a teenage Mom climbing out and then laying down on the side of the four lane highway. The baby was screaming and they made him go look in their mangled car to hunt for its binky. He said the car was strewn with MacDonalds fries and heaps of trash and fast food boxes. They went off in ambulances but appeared to be OK.</p>

<p>Something about one week in a big city. Last year when he had a job on Capitol Hill, he came home to find his apartment cleaned out on the seventh day by burglars with keys…who had nicely relocked the deadbolt for him.</p>

<p>LTS, so glad to see you and the doctor in fighting mode in a very strong alliance and your approach to this round of chemo sounds like a great mix of rest and activity.</p>

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<p>LTS… go out and shop for “activewear” – you can look sharp & healthy in elastic waist band pants – you’ll find it more convenient & comfortable for long days at the hospital, and if you go for exercise wear you’ll look like the athlete you want to be. You can also get some really nice & comfy elastic waist pants shopping for dance wear-- if you opt for black jazz pants, they look nice enough to wear just about anywhere, but they are designed for easy movement. You can shop online, too, since you are entering the world of simply deciding between “S” and “M” when you order. (I always buy sweats larger than I need them for maximum comfort, but I think you are are probably an S or an XS…)</p>

<p>more on Kara Kennedy</p>

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<p>[Kennedy</a>, his children, and cancer - The Boston Globe](<a href=“http://www.boston.com/news/local/articles/2008/05/25/kennedy_his_children_and_cancer/]Kennedy”>http://www.boston.com/news/local/articles/2008/05/25/kennedy_his_children_and_cancer/)</p>

<p>Have been out of town, and am just catching up. So sorry to hear of the latest hurdles. Prayers continue. Hope something happy happens to you today.</p>

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<p>–Henry Ford</p>

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<p>My understanding is that blood cells replace themselves every 120 days or so. </p>

<p>By the way, every time I see this TV commercial for Cadillac, I think of you, LTS. It just seems to capture your elegance and spirit. I can SO see you driving one of these and giving that look to those guys in the other car right before you floor it.</p>

<p>[YouTube</a> - Kate Walsh (Cadillac CTS favorite things)](<a href=“http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1029Zm9j_hM]YouTube”>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1029Zm9j_hM)</p>

<p>LTS and Momof2inca:</p>

<p>Yes, that was a bit of hyperbole on my part. The blood transfusion happened, thankfully many years ago. But my S, who was very young at that time, remembered how crucial it had been. I feel a lot of gratitude to those who donate. </p>

<p>Wishing you a healthy, tranquil Memorial Day weekend.</p>

<p>A poem written over a thousand years ago, by Japanese poet Ariwara No Narihira, after he became ill unexpectedly:</p>

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<p>[*From the Country of Eight Islands: An Anthology of Japanese Poetry<a href=“1981”>/i</a>]</p>

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<p>[Postbulletin.com:</a> From chemotherapy to the Med-City - Mon, May 26, 2008](<a href=“http://www.postbulletin.com/newsmanager/templates/localnews_story.asp?a=344587&z=22]Postbulletin.com:”>http://www.postbulletin.com/newsmanager/templates/localnews_story.asp?a=344587&z=22)</p>

<p>LTS,
I registered a few months ago amidst the angst of D’s college applications, stumbled upon your thread, and have had you in my thoughts ever since. I don’t read about colleges any more – D has made a decision – but I have followed your progress closely. I tried to post a couple of times, got an error message, and gave up. I know you never would have done that – given up – in any situation, be it trivial or life changing. I would say that I want to be you when I grow up (without the stupid big C, the floods, and the locusts), but I am grown up and couldn’t possibly measure up to you. So I want my daughter to be you when she grows up – strong, confident, determined, compassionate, articulate, smart, and lookin’ good. There’s some saying about being able to choose your friends but not being able to choose your family. Your daughter chose well when she chose you to be her mom. How very lucky she is.</p>

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<p>–Margaret Thatcher</p>

<p>Zipyourlips, thank you for your kind post - but I suspect you and most of the other parents here would find the moxie to fight this disease, if it were necessary. Re my daughter; it is I who am so very lucky; it has been an honor and a priviledge to be her mother, and I am grateful to have had the opportunity to see her all the way through college, and the wonderful years beyond. </p>

<p>Thanks also to everyone who wrote posts here over the weekend. ADad, you have it right; this battle has to be fought again from the beginning. My new chemotherapy regime is very tough. It’s four drugs, and, this weekend, I had two days of chemotherapy, on top of my first blood transfusion. </p>

<p>Because of the holiday weekend, I had to go to the hospital to get my treatment, and was there Saturday from 8:00 a.m. until 3:00 a.m. Sunday. For the first time, I strayed close to the brink of knowing how, and why, people give up, and die. Because of a combination of of issues that had far more to do with hospital operations than my health, I ended up leaving the hospital very, very sick. To give sort of an idea of level of care, they didn’t even bother to clean the blood off of me (and I was too sick to do this for myself), and while they did let me ride to the elevator in a wheelchair, they wouldn’t set the feet, so, I had to ride holding my feet up, with my laptop and work materials on my lap. </p>

<p>Thank heavens for very good friends who took me home and literally tucked me into bed. Thank heavens, too, for those very same friends who will not allow me to go on this trip alone. </p>

<p>The next day was better (just chemo, no transfusion); and, I now get daily shots for red blood cell growth stimulation, so, I am in medical care nearly every day now, and it will be this way for the next nine weeks, and perhaps beyond. </p>

<p>This morning, I was in my office at my desk by 7:15; by 7:30 I started coughing again, which made me gag, and, unfortunately threw up gatoraide and coffee all over my carpet. </p>

<p>I can say with certainty that “moxie” isn’t merely throwing up and managing to make the wastebasket. Moxie is getting the maintenance team to shampoo the carpet tonight, then getting another cup of coffee, then moving on to my scheduled conference call, then doing my work, then eating lunch, in spite of not being hungry, and while still sitting in the office smelling the mess on the carpet.</p>

<p>I think everyone has the tools, the moxie, the magic, whatever, somewhere inside to fight very serious battles. I think you just have to want it badly enough? </p>

<p>I also think that supportive caregivers are critical. Thanks to Saturday’s experience, I now know what it feels like to feel physically so badly, so terribly sick, that you just want it to be over, even if “over” means permanently. Supportive caregivers, external interests, commitments to others, etc. represent vital leverage for the patient in this condition.</p>

<p>The five year survivor in Texas and I have been trying to figure out, given our limited knowledge and resources, what in the world we can do to try to improve the situation for others who are ill. In the past several days, I have had very dear friends help me in the bathroom, clean up my vomit, tuck me into bed, run interference with hospital staff, go to the grocery store for me, cook for me, feed me, and any number of other things. I am not sure how I would have made it through the past several days without them. </p>

<p>Therefore, especially since we cannot do anything to impact the current health care situation until there’s an election (and it’s questionable even then); since we cannot force research dollars into lung cancer; etc. perhaps what we can do is find a way to fund and support caregivers. There are so many people who do not have anyone, or, who have very limited resources; if sick people cannot eat, or care for themselves easily, or even just have the relief of supportive human interaction, then, they have little hope at all of getting better.</p>

<p>I would be interested to hear/read thoughts on how to reach out to these persons (ill with cancer or other serious diseases), and, if my assumption that it could have an impact on their ability to survive may be correct.</p>

<p>Sorry to hear that you have not felt well lately. I do hope that tomorrow will be a better day.</p>

<p>There are lots of great non-profits who support caregivers and people dealing with illness and these non-profits rely on donations of money and manpower. </p>

<p>One local group in my area is called Food and Friends and a social worker or medical person can make a referral and this group will bring nutritious prepared foods to someone’s house so they do not have to cook.</p>

<p>Hospices provide respite volunteers so caregivers can take a break and they can always use money and more volunteers.</p>

<p>Local houses of worship support their communities etc. There are lots of ways to support caregivers.</p>

<p>LTS, I’ve been following the thread and thinking of you. I have the greatest admiration for your determination to fight on, and I’m especially impressed by your compassion for others who have to fight without the human resources you have. I wish you all the best.</p>