<p>"Natmicstef, one of the issues is that many of us with lung cancer don’t tell anyone. Not under any cicumstances. One of the very first things I did in the hospital, hours after diagnosis, was organize the business people and we made decisions on who would be told (and what were the legal and ethical implications etc.). Bottom line, you can count on one hand the number of people in my world who know I have lung cancer. "</p>
<p>You might want to rethink this. I haven’t posted before on your thread because the issue is painful because one of my best friends (a woman who never smoked, incidentally) was diagnosed with lung cancer almost 3 years ago.</p>
<p>She is still alive, thanks to an amazing amount of guts (Her mom survived Aushwitz, her dad survived a Russian prison camp), a very supportive husband, excellent insurance, and the fact that both of them are very proactive about her treatment. When the cancer was discovered, it was inoperable. It also had already spread to her liver. Since then, it spread to her brain. </p>
<p>She told her friends, family, and associates from just about the minute that she was diagnosed, and has gotten an enormous amount of support. </p>
<p>I think that she would have gotten the support even if she had been a smoker. What I found helpful about how she handled things is that she has been very honest, which has made it easier for me to know how to respond. Shortly after her diagnosis, we even met for dinner along with my younger S, who then was only 17. She lives out of town and hadn’t seen him for about 3 years. What was beautiful was that we didn’t have to pussyfoot around her illness. She straightforwardly talked about her hopes and fears and that allowed us to be open with her, too. </p>
<p>This was my first time being with anyone who had just been diagnosed with cancer, so her openness helped me a lot because I wanted to do the right thing, but didn’t know how.</p>
<p>Last Thurs., friends organized a prayer/meditation/reiki experience in which people across the country did their spiritual technique of choice on my friend’s behalf. I participated in it and could literally feel the vibrations even though I was doing this all by myself.</p>
<p>Throughout her illness, congregations at various places of worship throughout the country have been praying for my friend, and she feels this has made a difference.</p>
<p>There’s a wonderful you tube by a woman whom I know who has colon cancer. Since CC doesn’t allow you tube links, the way to find it is to Google “Anne Rudloe” and “You tube”. In part of the video, she talks about how neighbors whose religious orientation is very different from hers, have been very supportive to her.</p>
<p>I notice that you live in Miami. Anne is a marine biologist in Panacea, Fl. and is very easy to connect with even if you don’t know her.</p>