as a minimalist who values experiences over “stuff”, I’d be totally on board with chipping in for a honeymoon 
Contributing to honeymoon funds is a new-ish thing. Its fine, IMO, but putting it on facebook, where people not invited to the wedding will also see it (unless its to a private group) is, IMO, Tacky.
I have to admit that I would feel much more positive about chipping in for a honeymoon that involved interesting travel or experiences rather than lolling about at an expensive beach resort in the Caribbean.
I know that what should matter is whether the recipient will enjoy it, but I also admit that I get more pleasure out of buying china for people when I think it’s a good choice.
^^We’ve been married 23 years and we’ve used our fine china less than 10 times. I didn’t want to register for it, and I’m still mad every time I have to move it, lol. It’s going on ebay the next time we move. It’s a social remnant of a time that no longer exists for most of us.
@MotherOfDragons , what pattern is it?
My family of china fanatics uses what most people would consider “good” china every day. But it is china we bought over time or inherited because we liked it, not some pattern we registered for at the age of 23 with the idea that it would live in a cupboard except for big occasions. Deciding which plates to use each night is always fun.
But we’ve had these china discussions before. Don’t mean to derail the thread.
Flip flops at a wedding drive me nuts. I don’t care if they’re dolled up or name brand. To me, they’re one step up from slippers.
Eh, showing your age with the flip-flop comment, lookingforward. I had to give up on my anti-flip-flop stance since exhaustion was the only alternative.
@Consolation I have no idea, lol. I wanted some crazy Villeroy & Boch stuff that the moms dissuaded me from getting (and I would have loved it because I love crazy stuff) and it’s a boring bone china with a gold (ugh) band with a teal (double uggggh!) edge.
I think once I realized I couldn’t run it through the dishwasher without wearing off the gold, it then became useless to me.
eta: I think it’s called Pfaltzgraff Hampton (although the hampton is blue and the band on mine is teal).
Does it look like this?
https://www.■■■■■■■■/listing/220861819/set-of-7-pfaltzgraff-patina-pattern-fine#
See, if had gotten what you actually liked instead of something closer to the lowest common denominator of “safe” china, you might have had the pleasure of using it all these years! (Your pattern would look good with some more aggressively patterned salad plates, cream soups, etc for which it would serve as a nice background when serving multiple courses at a dinner party.)
Well, in reality Lenox Eternal is or was the lowest common denominator of safe china destined to sit on the shelf and be used maybe once a year… B-)
BTW, I put all of my china in the D/W. Just don’t use powder. Unless you are doing so really frequently, it won’t wear off the gold on modern stuff. The anser to that is clearly to get more patterns! 
@BunsenBurner yep that’s it. WOW you are good!
No powder and no very hot dry (which can cause fine lines.)
Weird-- some hodgepodge of pictures came up from that link-- not one particular pattern.
I have 3 sets of china. They are all collecting dust.
As for the honeyfund sites-- they take a cut when couples register with them. Better to just send a check. That how it works anyway. You can “select” a particular item you are paying for, but the $ really all goes into one pot which the couple gets after the company takes their cut.
You can have mine, Consolation. It’s Wedgwood Rosedale. I think it’s kind of twee but those were my sensibilities when I was 21.
We use the china, too. And the silver settings and crystal. The more you use them, the less intimidating it becomes. Since we mostly use them for family, when the girls are here, I make them do the washing.
Jym, the picture is midway down the page, a larger photo after the hodgepodge. If that’s it, it’s pretty. Maybe not MoD’s preference, i know.
But I do agree what a couple chooses when young isn’t always what they’ll love later. We had bought some plain white with a thin blue border line, but the good stuff is inherited.
For the heck of it, here’s what I did want and couldn’t afford, still love: https://www.popscreen.com/prod/MTg0NDE0MDM3/Richard-Ginori-RegalBlack-Salad-Plate-Fine-China-Dinnerware-Black-BandGold As I recall, DH was into more flowery.
Pretty, but definitely kind of twee. Can you sell it all and buy a dozen plates in a few patterns you actually like now? (Didn’t you say your H wants to keep it?)
THanks, @lookingforward . I see it.
Now gor the next question-- what is “twee”?
Twee – cutesy, girly, a little diminutive in its feeling. What a teenage girl would find sophisticated but an adult wouldn’t.
I looked at lookingforward’s link to the china that she wanted, and think that is very elegant and timeless.
And, oh yeah, about the Wedgwood Rosedale.
I really liked Wedgwood Florentine when I was in my early twenties. I still like it, but would not use it in a full set of china. Recently, I bought a demitasse cup in that pattern. Wish fulfillment on the cheap. I might recommend buying just a useful piece or two in a pattern you have really liked.
(Of course, over on another thread, people–including me–are making fun of me for the number of items on my kitchen counters, so maybe this is not a good idea. Still, it seems like a good idea to me.)
I’ve got Wedgewood Amherst http://www.replacements.com/webquote/ww_amhgo.htm. I still like it, though we don’t use it terribly often. When my oldest was a baby and we had no dishwasher we used it every night. I have some old stuff of my grandmothers where some of the plates have no pattern left at all! If it’s true that I can wash it in the dishwasher if I just switch to liquid, I’m in! However we now have some pottery that I love (and it wasn’t cheap either) and we have some big Japanese pottery plates that I also love which we use for specialish meals as well.