I skipped the name thing by having an engraved monogram. Mrs HisFirst HisLast feels so anonymous. And we were butting old conventions back then.
Much more flexible today.
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HImom: you were correct!
Ok, I spent far too long wandering through that protocol website. This stuff is fascinating to me. You only get to be President Soandso during your term but one is Senator Whosit forever after.
ETA - @alh , but this is CC, so more importantly, did you keep the plate from the little engraved name cards from your high school graduation announcements?
Obama’s not just a former senator. It’s going to be, “The Honorable Barack Obama,” for me.
In that situation, I’m with QM and giving him the title President, regardless of official protocol as long as there is only one president in that household.
As a young lawyer, I was always taught that you address correspondece to the Supreme Court Chief Justice as:
The Chief Justice of the United States
[address]
You weren’t suppose to put the name since there was only one. By analogy, maybe the formal invitations sent to Bill and Hill next year should addressed to:
The President of the United States of America
The Honorable William J. Clinton
[address]
^I like that a lot.
@nottelling Where is that event planner today? I’m sorry that happened.
I addressed D’s wedding invitations last year and just followed her instructions. SIL’s family received more formal addresses. Our family received less formal. D is an MD and the first few invitations she received that addressed her as ‘Mrs.’ annoyed her… for about three seconds.
We do not talk ‘politics’ at our house, so I don’t think we can invite Hillary and Bill or Donald and Milania to a barbecue. I would love to invite Chelsea and Ivanka instead. They can bring their kids, too.
I, personally, prefer MyFirst OurLast instead of Mrs. HisFirst OurLast. I kept my entire given name and added HisLast. It just barely fits on my license.
Moving on to other guests, how is everyone planning to address the invitations to deposed royalty? I think it is super tacky to insist on royal titles after your country’s monarchy has been abolished, like these two:
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pavlos,_Crown_Prince_of_Greece
MIL complained that birth announcements when DH and siblings were born listed Mrs. HisFirst HisLastName, giving birth to BabyFirst BabyMiddle HisLast, so that the person who did all the work was the one whose name was not mentioned.
Niece had a wedding website, of course. It warned that the wedding helpers would not allow entry to guests wearing white/ivory/pearl colored dresses. It said “You know better!” We do, but MOB was appalled. I laughed. Sounded just like niece. We attended, appropriately attired, and had fun.
Now that is tacky. You know what Miss Manners would do if a guest came wearing white/ivory? She’d smile and invite her to have a drink.
Then there are the weddings where the invitations DEMAND that the guests wear all white, or black and white. Those are tacky, too.
I agree. I don’t think making a wedding black-tie is gracious at all. It’s inconsiderate to younger people just starting out.
*Let’s keep political comments out of the thread. *
This is a pretty funny article about a woman who moves into a building that is a popular wedding venue - and she can hear everything:
^ Hilarious.
Ick! Just listened to “Baby Got Back;” can’t imagine it at any wedding I attended so far. Wonder if she’s going to find a new place–I know I’d be searching I’d I were her.
I’m sure she’s searching! So funny that she met the DJ who is the usual DJ at these weddings.
I could totally see Baby Got Back as a joke. In our circle of friends, we always played this song as a joke at weddings (with the implication that we WERE the pretty women who weren’t going to just cook and clean - if they wanted that, they could go elsewhere). https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qh9ZZgDqzAg
I love that song. It was played at the wedding i went to last month.