It’s not ‘wasting’ ED if it’s your top choice. While it may be uphill, it’s not impossible and you should use your most potent weapon. After all, you’re talking about four years of your life. You needn’t get accepted everywhere. But you do need to take your shot at any highly desired school that is possible, even if a stretch. And UVA is that.
Other Safe schools that your EA won’t impact and have spirit that are 5-20 and meet your need:
Miami Ohio
TCU
Syracuse
U Miami a target, not safety. I think Miami Ohio could be a solid choice for you and while you have no aid needs you’d save $ too. Lots of spirit, smaller ‘large’ public and easy admit but fine rep.
If you could go bigger, lots of schools.