I think that many teen-aged girls would benefit from a healthy dose of second-wave feminism.
We observed this more than 5 years ago. We saw a number of HS girls – either my son’s classmates or daughters of friends – who seemed to feel the need to be perfect at everything. He called one group the OCDs. They worried about grades. They would come in a 6 AM to meet with the teachers before school to make sure their homework was correct before they handed it in. They worried about looks – every outfit and hair was in place. They worried about doing the right ECs the right way. Several of these girls (now young women) subsequently have had breakdowns of various kinds.
They boys just seem to try to be good a a few things but don’t feel compelled to be perfect at everything.