<p>^^^^and no doubt true.</p>
<p>in the end, do what you feel comfortable doing. Consider them “secondary, optional and conditional.” “Nice if you do them, ok if you don’t.” Be true to yourself, and do what you think is right for you.</p>
<p>(ps… our son got 3 nominations, to 3 academies. He wrote thank you notes not only following the interview, but after receiving the nomination. The following year, when he needed a nomination for the foundation program, he received another 2- and he wrote thank you notes for those as well. They make the time for what they feel is important. But that is who “he” is.)</p>