" However, I had to deflect criticisms both from friends who were surprised my kid didn’t do his own laundry yet at age 10"
LOL. I had many people pretty much say that my kids would end up dirty later in life because we not only didn’t have them do laundry at home (this is because my feelings are: STAY OUT OF MY LAUNDRY ROOM!!!) but they had laundry service at school. Then my daughter did a semester abroad with no service available. So she did laundry after spending 5 minutes watching a youtube video on “how to do laundry.” Years of prep are simply not required or even helpful for tasks that can be learned in a few minutes. Now she lives in an apartment and is “into doing laundry” just like me.