<p>Sistersunnie, How wonderful. I hope very much that my son wants to still share things with me when he leaves home. You’re a good mom!</p>
<p>Sistersunnie, you get to have whatever kind of emotional expression that needs to come out of you…no criticism implied at all, I hope you know. Hugs. Lorelei</p>
<p>Of course you’re entitled to have a hissy fit. Goodness. All your virtual friends want you to hiss whenever and wherever you need to.</p>
<p>Of course, because we’re virtual friends, we don’t have to listen to them, do we.</p>
<p>She was supposed to leave school and come home today. But called me last night and said she wanted to spend her first night at the new place so will hanging out all day and tonight. Heading home in the am to be with us all. I had a lightbulb moment that now she has a new home and I’m happy BUT it tugged at my heart none the less. My baby is flying out of the nest for real… It will be interesting to see her transition this summer.</p>
<p>When they have their own place, they somehow get more peaceful, less to challenge in the world when they have the say, the control…it is an exciting time of life. After that, “home” starts to mean something else. Of course, when troubles come, you and your home are where they want to be…nothing else brings comfort. Will she bring pictures to show you, or have you seen her place? What fun!</p>
<p>I’ve seen it from the outside and photos of the inside. Gotten reports from future MIL who lives nearer and has been in. Get to see it next week. Really cute, small and clean. Everything has been refurbished, painted, new pergo flooring,etc. I sure as heck didnt start out that way!!! The market and their frugal/saving ways made it possible for these two to start out nicely. </p>
<p>Home is a heart place not only a physical place. Indulge me here… I didnt ask my husband who I was nor expected a specific label. The dementia made that recgonition impossible. But I always chose to believe that his heart knew me, he always responded with delight and relief when I walked in. Always reached for me in times of trouble or anxiety and always kissed me, held my hand, etc. That was enough for me. However during his last hospital stay (about a month before he passed) a nurse came in and pointed to me and asked him “who is that?” He looked right at me and said “home”.</p>
<p>Says it all to me…Everyone should find that place.</p>
<p>Oh sistersunnie. You made me cry.
“Home.”
I hope I can be that to someone sometime in my life.</p>
<p>That is a lovely memory for you, sistersunnie. You were his home.</p>
<p>Oh, Sunnie, that was beautifully put. How wonderful that he did know it was you, even through the dementia. You had a truly special bond.</p>
<p>Have a good weekend.</p>