Congrats on your daughter’s achievements. It will make her interesting, personal and unique for her college essay.
But don’t even think about talking to your kids about going to any reach school. If so, you will all be disappointed. If it happens naturally then great. My kids both got accepted, rejected and wait listed by some really great colleges. It’s not about them, it’s what the school needs at that moment in time to build their class. It’s a numbers game and don’t take it personally.
What we did living in Chicago was to go have lunch at Northwestern and University of Chicago. We are from Detroit so we would stop off at University of Michigan to walk around(and get a hot fudge chocolate chip shake from Pizza Bob’s) . This way they got a taste of different sizes colleges. Then we made vacations around colleges choices. My wife took my daughter to the east coast to see private Lacs and my son saw a lot of Big Ten and other schools.
We found out our high school counselor wasn’t that great so do some research yourself also.