<p>Well, as I said, I expect them to support themselves. My D does, even though she works at a lowpaying job that does not require a college degree, and likes it too much to get around to grad school yet.</p>
<p>The kids/career thing–well, she knows how i did it: kids young, limited “career” advancement because I didn’t want the long absences. I think she’ll have them when she’s ready to, and in a relationship where it makes sense (which may be the one she’s in).</p>
<p>My kids know we didn’t follow any specified trajectories and did alright–they can look around family and friends and see all the varieties of adulthood, and figure it out for themselves. Again, their lives, not mine.</p>