<p>I see this as very much reflecting my D and her friends, and expect to see a similar wandering path for my S.</p>
<p>I was thinking about the column this morning, and inspired by the poetry thread, I invoked Keats’ definition of “negative capability” (“I mean Negative Capability, that is when man is capable of being in uncertainties, Mysteries, doubts without any irritable reaching after fact & reason”) as a path for calmness for a parent watching them.</p>
<p>As I’ve said before, it’s like reading a good book where you don’t know where it’s going but you trust the author–they are competent human beings, and I do trust they’ll find their own ways and forge good lives.</p>