Thank you again to scottj, NROTCgrad, and doubtful for your points.It has given me a lot to consider over the last 24 hours. I was completely focused on bottom line. It made me angry, b/c I know my child would thrive at the expensive school, as it seems like such a perfect fit. One thing I’ve realized is that if we send our child to a school he clearly doesn’t want to attend, keeping him from his dream school, do we not apply to ivies/2nd tier schools for his siblings in the future? Or do we set him up to be resentful of them and us? If we say no to applying to a BC-type school for the others, will our younger children slack off on grades or continue to do their best? I think I know the answer.