<p>From your post, it is really not clear what the problem is. Perhaps you aren’t sure. Does this son have learning challenges/disabilities? ADHD? Is depression the main problem? Disorganization? Are there other reasons for the lack of motivation besides mood? Has a physical evaluation been done for fatigue, thyroid, adrenal function, Lyme?</p>
<p>If this child was seeing a psychologist, it is a little mystifying why no medications were suggested (a psychologist cannot prescribe, but often they work with psychiatrists). I think a psychiatrist would be a priority, at the moment. Sometimes academic hospitals have studies going on that offer free care and meds, but if cost is not a factor, do some research and get the best one you can. If you want a male provider, sometimes insurance will cover an out of network male psychiatrist for a young male patient, if you look into that.</p>
<p>If your son’s lack of motivation is a mystery, a full neuropsych. evaluation would be really helpful, despite the cost. Sometimes you can get insurance to cover it. The public school can do an evaluation and if you do not agree with the results, you may be able to get the school to pay for a private one.</p>
<p>I think that you may not be anywhere near ready for the kind of quick fix your husband wants. You need a lot more information and need to use professionals for that information-gathering. Have one central person, most likely a psychiatrist but possibly a neuro-psychologist, or even primary care if he or she is excellent, to coordinate and help you.</p>