<p>Calla, the point of suggesting the public school route was to get them to pay for a private evaluation (assuming the parents will disagree with the results). In my state anyway, that is how it works. The school will pay for the additional private evaluation if requested within a year (as I remember) of their own.</p>
<p>That said, there are ways to use public school resources, and to get services/accommodations in order to help a kid succeed. I also speak from long experience. In fact, I once did a one person sit-in our school office- long story and I don’t recommend it, but the public school failings can be addressed in a variety of ways for a particular child.</p>
<p>It sounds like, in this case, the husband, at least, would rather tie the box up with a bow and send the problem off to someone else to take care of, so to speak.</p>