<p>I am so sorry to hear of your situation. Those of us who have walked those roads with our children understand how your heart is being ripped out. </p>
<p>It’s a big decision to send your child to a therapeutic boarding school, and often a life-saving and necessary one. It is often especially necessary if substance abuse is involved.</p>
<p>However, I wonder if three months of therapy a year ago is a sufficient trial at home. You don’t mention medication, and you don’t mention alcohol/drug usage. </p>
<p>I agree with lastminutemom that an appointment with a psychiatrist and a medication trial may be very helpful. </p>
<p>Both of my children hit very rough patches, and we wound up taking both of them in to be evaluated by a neuropsychologist. With one son, the evaluation didn’t change the diagnosis or medication but helped us understand some behaviors and ultimately improved our relationship. With the other, we completely reformulated the diagnosis and he was placed on appropriate medication. Though we had discussed sending one of them to a residential treatment center, we wound up not having to take that route (primarily, I think, because thankfully he had not turned to substances.) Both are now doing well. </p>
<p>The expense of the evaluation (approximately $3000 each) was worth it, and considerably less than the price of boarding school. I wonder if this may be helpful in your case.</p>
<p>((hugs))</p>