Yes! And related…people who have hearing aids but won’t use them because “they don’t need them.” Um, yeah you do!
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Related is the checkout line at the grocery store or other retailer, where someone does not have the payment ready to go as soon as the cashier gives the total, but instead fumbles around their stuff to find it.
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…particularly at airport security. (One advantage of GE/TSAPre is that you don’t have to wait an extra 5 minutes per person while it suddenly dawns on these people that they have to take out electronics which they then have to hunt through their bags for, take off shoes etc…)
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When you’re trying to get your groceries processed and paid for, and the cashier wants to have an extended conversation with you.
I’m fine with general pleasantries, but don’t need a conversation. I just want to get through the line as quickly as possible, have my card ready, pay and leave.
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I also get annoyed at the grocery store with the long conversation. I go to the same local store, so know which cashiers are chatty, so avoid them even if their line is the shortest. There are a couple that will pick up the item you are buy and start asking question, like is this good, have you had the other flavor, do you like it better than some other brand. Then they show it to the bagger and ask if they have tried it, so now another conversation happens; this all while she has stopped ringing up my remaining items!
BUT, my store just got self check out last week; I will be heading there more often than not!
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I think some kid couples are short-sighted as to the wedding shower. Unlikely they have “nice” things even if living together. A set of nice (not fancy) dishes that aren’t chipped? Good knives? The last few showers I attended a few of us chipped in for a Kitchenaid Stand Mixer and for the others, got very nice cutting boards (on the registry). Not necessarily must haves, but things they wouldn’t buy for themselves.
I actually don’t mind bridal showers. If I know the bride, I am happy to celebrate with her. If I don’t (friends of the groom’s parents for example), I enjoy getting to meet the bride and her family prior to the wedding. I like seeing the gifts whether they are opened or “wrapped in clear.”.
We generally give gifts for showers and cash for the wedding.
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If a wedding is cancelled after the bridal shower, would you expect gifts to be returned? Or at least ..something? There was one time this happened and we had radio silence other than hearing from the parents of the bride (as an aside) that the wedding had been cancelled. It had already left a bad taste in our mouth as after the shower we had been told that the wedding would be much smaller than the shower due to …reasons i forget now… that did make it seem like a gift grab. (We were invited to the shower but told after that - when I inquired about wedding date - that it was “small” and we wouldn’t be invited…) I would not invite people to a shower knowing that they wouldn’t be invited to the big day.
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Unless someone died, yes I’d expect the gifts to be returned.
No one died! I did get invited to the next actual wedding of the same person a few years later, but it was a destination wedding in Europe in the middle of the school year so totally impractical even if we’d decided the cost was worth it. (I should probably add that the other spouse was from a European country so it did make some sort of sense to have it where their family could more easily come.)
This reminds me of when a relative told our family excitedly that the D (who was visiting) was getting married and acted as if they expected us to throw her a shower. We obligingly threw a shower and asked for details so we could make travel plans and were shut down immediately, told it was very small and none of us were invited. VERY AWKWARD!
We were all taken aback and never really warmed again to that particular portion of the family (dad’s last remaining sib & her D, fSIL).
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I was very annoyed to have to call out able-bodied people (acquaintances of mine) who parked in the disabled parking spots. I don’t care if you have to walk a long way/you’re in a hurry/no disabled people are expected/you don’t think you’ll get a ticket/there’s lots of empty disabled parking spots. Count your blessings and walk!
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In our state fines for wrongly parking in disabled spot without properly displaying placard results in $250+ fines per incident. It discourages people from abusing the system.
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If they can be, yes. My daughter was MOH for a wedding that was first delayed and then cancelled. They’d had the bachelorette in May, a shower (mostly the bride’s relatives as it was in her hometown) that my daughter didn’t attend in June, the wedding was then delayed in July (wedding was scheduled for September) and finally cancelled in Oct (and bride got a new job and moved away). My daughter had paid for the bachelorette, the bridesmaid dress, and other things that couldn’t be recovered$$$. Have to say the girl was a trooper and came to my daughter’s wedding in March and tried not to be sad but I know it was really hard on her. I have no idea if she returned gifts that weren’t used, engraved, monogrammed, or otherwise personalized.
The shower my other daugher’s MIL threw was mostly people who weren’t invited to the wedding - my daughter didn’t know these people! It wasn’t really a gift grab as MIL wanted these people to meet D and they knew they weren’t invited to the wedding. They got to eat a pretty nice lunch, chat with their friends, and spend a nice time in a nice setting. Those who brought gifts were in the $25-$40 range. If my friend would have hosted a lunch, none of the guests would have been invited to the wedding as my friend lives in Colo and the wedding was in Indiana. Only one friend, who is my children’s godmother, was invited and would have also been invited to the lunch (lunch would have been all MY college friends).
My daughter really doesn’t want them. I’ve offered her my crystal (which isn’t fancy at all) and she says no. Dishes? Offered her my grandmother’s china but no; my uncle offered her knives for her wedding, but no. My friend offered her Dansk flatware (which she gave my other daughter and they were expensive) but D#2 said no, she has forks (and they are nice). She is a minimalist to a fault. She doesn’t want anything that she doesn’t know where it will go at her house. Do I think she needs everyday glasses? Yes, as someone who is sick of drinking from plastic cups at her house, YES, she needs some nice glasses but she doesn’t want them.
I got very lucky at Christmas as I got her an air fryer (which she exchanged for another one) and she LOVES that. It earned counter space at her house. Also got her an Insta-garden thing a few years ago and she liked that. She’s just extremely picky.
My daughter really doesn’t want things.
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The registry for the shower I mentioned was at Williams Sonoma, with I think the lowest priced around $50 and going into the hundreds of dollars.
I have a daughter who’s the same way. She is very particular about what she has and doesn’t want anything that she doesn’t have room for - either physically or mentally. When I suggested she might want a port-a-crib for her baby she replied that she didn’t know where she’d put it when she wasn’t using it.
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As we were traveling this week and used many public restrooms (including airport bathrooms), my current annoyance is people that hover so far over the (public toilet) seat that they spray all over it.
I don’t care what kind of cooties are on that seat, you don’t need to hover 2 feet above it and then spray all over. Lower your a++ to just above it and you’ll be fine. The most frustrating part is the dirtiest ones where at the airport WHERE THEY HAD TOILET SEAT COVERS AVAILABLE.
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I carry my own toilet seat covers in my purse.
The woman who teaches my exercise class reminds us that we do squats so we don’t have to sit on a dirty public toilet seat! Some people definitely need more practice/muscles for hovering.
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Two things
- Hovering is bad for your pelvic floor.
- Those flimsy toilet seats? They are a fig leaf of sorts and provide no protection - paper is porous even if that is not visible to the eye! Carry some Clorox wipes.
And 3 - the link above talks about bacteria. You should be also concerned about viruses.
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While squat toilets are common in some places, they seem to be rare in the US.
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