Good luck. Life is complicated. You do the best you can and that is all that you can do. For a parent, we have to raise our kids so that at some point they are no longer dependent on us because we are not going to live forever. Eventually you will have to take care of yourself and your future family (wife, children) so you have to be able to take care of yourself first before you can take care of others. A parents greatest concern is that their children should be able to survive and flourish without them when they are no longer there.