<p>Having been blissfully married for almost 16 years, I feel that i can speak from experience. (Sorry to be a lurker, but I do have a daughter who will be college bound in a few years)</p>
<p>I think that people marry the wrong people. If you have been in a relationship with this person, and break up every other month, why go ahead and marry them? Because they are settling, assuming that they can’t do better.</p>
<p>Also, if you find yourself involved with loser after loser, recall your basic math and find the common denominator - YOU! People have to work on themselves, in order to attract the type of person that they SHOULD be with. If I keep dating jerks, what does that say about me (what am I doing to attract these jerks, and why do I accept this behavior during our relationship).</p>
<p>This was my life, before I realized that I was the problem in all of these scenarios. I asked God to change me, I worked on myself, and BOOM, my husband walked into my life.</p>
<p>Neither my husband, nor I had any childhood role models of a happy, long lasting marriage. Fortunately, our daughter, her friends and our nieces and nephew will.</p>