my dad, for whatever reason, waited until after admission decisions to let me know that he wasn’t going to pay a dime. When I pointed out he should have told me before I applied, he said “Well honestly, I didn’t think you’d get into cornell”. My dad never explained his reasons, he was a finance genius, but I was one of five kids and he may have been worried about retirement.
I went to our state flagship tuition free, was an RA (free room) and worked three jobs to pay for board/books/spending money. Still, I had some hungry nights. As one might expect, I had a leg up in terms of work ethic when I joined the work force and used that advantage throughout my career.
I noodled around whether to put our 3 kids through a similar ringer but in the end, decided to pay for their college education. They’re expected to work summers and have a pt job after soph year.
Personally, I see sugaring as prostitution but, since I believe prostitution should be legal, I don’t have a problem with it. Still, I’d feel pretty badly if I could afford to pay for my kid’s education and they availed themselves of a sugar daddy relationship.