Regarding fake IDs and drinking, the Dean made a really good point to the parents. A lot of us parents focus on the danger of the actual alcohol/drugs when we are cautioning our kids. The problem is not the actual alcohol - any kid knows that the vast majority of people who drink too much do NOT end up in the hospital with alcohol poisoning or getting big consequences for getting drunk. It’s honestly not realistic, and they know it. What he suggested we focus on is that it is not the alcohol that is the issue - it is the choices that you make when you are compromised. For example, driving, going to unsafe places, choosing not to go to class/study, having unprotected/unsafe sex, doing illegal stuff that you might not do otherwise… THAT is the issue. The choices. I’d never thought about explaining it this way. Maybe everyone else did, but I had “good kids” and she was my oldest.