I think that your belief in moving to Sacramento to solve all of your issues, is unrealistic. I’m sorry, I don’t mean to add to your stress, but this is a very expensive venture.
Coming from OOS and living with your grandparents will never gain you instate status. The CCC will charge full fees, as well as UC Berkeley full fees of $55k+ per year (assuming you won’t be commuting daily from Sac-4 hours each way on crowded I-80, minimum). The State of California is out of money and is very strict about residency requirements. Their priority goes to children of California taxpayers. Coming with OOS transcripts is an immediate flag for full fees.
The CS major is impacted at the majority of the UCs. Additionally, Silicon Valley hires from schools all over the map, not just from the Bay Area.