We have only traveled with one SO, but it went really well. Fortunately she (SO) likes our family, and she probably enjoyed the trip more than my son. She hung out with all of us, and didn’t need him to be with her all the time. When we go on trips now, we usually have dinner together, and if we have an excursion planned we all tend to Participate. We usually pay for everything for the trip except if people go off on Their own to do things.
SO advice—welcome them like part of the family but don’t count necessarily on that happening.
@fendergirl “do you know the SO well?”
Well, I can’t say I know him well, but I know that the relationship is very serious. He and my DD2 had been together since sophomore college. They went to the same college together and graduated last year. Currently DD2 is living with us and SO is at the opposite coast. They have good paying respective jobs while trying to figure out graduate school and their next step in life.
Anyway, we met him the first time when he visited my daughter Junior year Christmas break while visiting a friend 2 hours away from us. The next time that we saw him was during graduation. Also met his family and had a brunch with them. Since then he visited us (staying in our home) 3 times. He spent the recent holidays (Christmas till New year) with us. He’s easy to get along and very easygoing and yes @gouf78 and @doschicos , we welcome him and treat him as part of our family.
But sometimes, since they’re not married yet (or engaged for that matter), there’s is that reservation in my and DW’s part to get really close to him.
^^ Oops, I meant DD1. DD2 is too young (middle school) to have an SO. LOL
@DingrasDad , hey, I had a boyfriend in junior high! 
My advice, give them some time alone on the trip, especially since they don’t see each other very often right now. But still include them on things.
One problem we had when we traveled with son , daughter and daughter’s significant other was that my son, who was 7 years younger than daughter and SO was not happy when they left to spend time together and he was left with us, the parents. We probably should have invited one of his friends.
@fendergirl Thanks. Yup, the don’t see very often enough. On average, they see each other every 1 1/2 month, alternating who’s traveling to see the other. Thanks God, that they have both relatively good paying job, so they can afford it. They’ll have few 3 days of free time with one another that we allotted for this trip.
@Wellspring I can see that as a problem. Hopefully that will not be the case for my younger D. My DDs are 9 years apart.
This was in our Wash Post travel section this weekend – I thought this was a really good way to open discussions with young adults about travel, scheduling and expectations. Saw the headline and pointed it out to DH (without having read the article myself yet) and he immediately read it. Think the article will be far more effective than anything I could say! https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/travel/its-a-new-adventure-how-to-stay-calm-and-travel-on-with-adult-offspring/2019/05/30/f4a217a0-6dc6-11e9-8f44-e8d8bb1df986_story.html?utm_term=.4fff5ccd81fc
It’s perfect timing – we are planning a trip to see S2 and hoping S1 will join us for some adventures.
@CountingDown, I can’t read it because I no longer get the Post. Do you know if it’s available another way?
Thank you @CountingDown
I was able to access the article and I’m not a subscriber.
1214mom, try going incognito and hitting the link. WaPo does give some freebie articles every month. Alternatively, try a different computer/device.
Try this (hope it’s not against TOS): https://muckrack.com/elizabeth-chang/articles
Great article, @CountingDown