You are right, @sevmom, it is a huge difference. If done right, it doesn’t need to be done equally, just fairly. I have a sister who earned a full ride to college, the scholarship paid for everything, including room, board, books, transportation, everything. Never once did my parents announce to us that they had done anything to equalize things. Never once have I felt negative feelings from my sister that more was spent on me than on her. It is not my business what they spent on her and not hers what was spent on me.