@purpleTitan - Not sure what your question is. There was nothing really different about me,my brother and sister other than my sister is the youngest. There is only 3 years difference between all three of us. My sister has always been favored over my brother and me. I’m the oldest.
Anyway, my point about my kids not being the same is that my middle kid tries hard but unfortunately he is not going to be able to get the merit aid the other two can, we can’t fault him for that and we aren’t going to give the other two extra money to “make” up for the tuition savings from their scholarships.