We spent more money on my older daughter’s education because her school doesn’t have as big an endowment and gives less financial aid in general. But my younger daughter received more financial aid not only because of her school and her merit awards but also because our income dropped precipitously because of my husband losing his job after the older daughter started college. Younger daughter got more FA; she also was the one to experience first-hand the horrendous stress of her father’s extended unemployment, including getting reduced-price lunch and us getting Medicaid benefits for health care. I think I’ve done the best I could for both of them, particularly in loving them as they need to be loved.