<p>Golani:</p>
<p>Your writing on this board is markedly illogical. Like Jmmom, who is one of the most helpful Moms on this board, I agree that your inability to communicate respectfully with adults is a problem that may damage your essays and your personal references. </p>
<p>Defining the problem is always the first step.
Parents on this board keep telling you that you have not defined the problem logically. If you don’t know what the problem is, you will not get the outcome you want. </p>
<p>Your poor judgment and your underlying belief system and your misplaced priorities are The Problem. </p>
<p>The citations for underage drinking, the violation of both curfew and number of people in your parent’s van ticket and the shoplifting are the symptoms.</p>
<p>Two lawyers and a lawyers wife among many others have responded to you but you make poor arguments instead of listening. Perhaps posting on a parents board isn’t your scene.</p>
<p>Do you have any idea how lame and immature bragging about “running from the cops” sounds from a person about to apply to college? Especially to the colleges on your list? </p>
<p>I am sorry but your wasting your energy and our time talking about how 15-17 year olds are just as responsible as drinkers as adults and the “Running from the Cops” posts made me truly cringe for you! You sound like you are in middle school in these posts. </p>
<p>A speeding ticket or a curfew ticket and a 17 year old driving six people in a van is indeed “a run in with the law.” Perhaps college committees will not do a criminal/traffic history but you have been told ten ways here that in this information age, you will never really know what information the college committee gets about you. It is a new world. You have heard of Facebook and Google and blogging world and you do know that a small fee pulls up all records that are not expunged. Your references are not obligated to show you what they write or say about your character. Privacy is not what it used to be. Privacy is an illusion.</p>
<p>Although it is quite true, as someone else posted, that some very lax parents raise wonderful human beings, you are not going to convince anyone here that you anything but quite confused when you shoplift, pick up six friends in a van after curfew or drink since 9th grade “responsibly.” (right)</p>
<p>You are not focused on the things that make college admission happen.</p>
<p>You are caught up in impressing the wrong people. </p>
<p>You ignored my first post about brain development and PET scans and lack of Excutive brain function in teen brains. </p>
<p>And my husband often represents adults and people your age who are ticketed for traffic offenses. I personally have spent some time in Remedial Driving School to get points off my own record for a speeding ticket and now I watch my speed carefully. I did not like the consequences to my insurance premiums or the reality that my record could become cumulative if I did not clear it. You could have hired a lawyer and gone to court to ask to go to Remedial Driving School and possibly had that ticket diverted.</p>
<p>The first thing we were required to do in Remedial Driving School was to sit in a circle and state our offense. This seemed to take a few people by surprise. They did not think they did anything wrong. They just wanted to clear their records.</p>
<p>You were graded (by the way) on your level of maturity here. There were several people like you who were grossly minimizing their offenses as if the law did not apply to them and they were just “unlucky” and the laws were silly. If the police officer in charge did not think each person actually took responsibility for their bad choice and arrogant disregard of the state driving laws, even though we all had to stay in school 8 hours regardless and watch movies and take and pass written exams, he would not recommend them for diversion and they lost the chance to clear their records. </p>
<p>A few people in my session were not recommended for diversion and record expungement. They spent the whole day there but got nothing out of it.
kinda like this thread…oy!</p>