<p>What poetgrl said- to me, the thing is getting each kid what he or she needs, the “right” opportunity, what works best for each. If “right” for one is school x and for the other is school y, within the family budget, you do what you can. </p>
<p>And, that’s what I read into post #1- one is best suited for one sort of school and the other is suited (or so it seems, today) for another sort of opportunity. Maybe you neither up what you pay for #1 or short what you give #2.</p>
<p>As for the unexpected successes, totally agree. Who says the high school format tells us all we need to know about kids’ intelligences and potential? It’s just what you observe in that context, at that age, among those peers, with the limited opportunities.</p>