<p>My older son really wanted to NOT go to our in-state public flagship, and his dream school would have cost us close to 250K. He wound up at a very expensive school where he also got a substantial scholarship. This is a child that would own one pair of shoes if I let him, so he’s not usually a big spender/materialistic kid.
My younger son wants to go to our state flagship, because he knows it’s a great value, and je has taken summer programs there. He is a senior and has never said anything about expecting anything extra because we are paying so much for his brother. I have spent much more on clothes and shoes for this guy, but that doesn’t compare to college cost. Maybe at some other point I will help him when he needs it, but there’s no guarantee or expectation.</p>