<p>My dad hasn’t been around since I was 17, so yes, I would agree that I wish he was still around.
But I do think that when you have a parent who feels they need to solve all or at least many problems, that telling them is the same as involving them. </p>
<p>If they are living in an apt or condo, it’s possible this won’t be much of an issue.
My mothers condo building was well insulated, with heated common areas, and she rarely needed to even turn on her heat at all, albeit it was in Bellevue Wa, and not St. Paul, MN.</p>
<p>When my D lived in a house with roommates, they each had a utility or rent in their name, then costs were split every month. It seems easier with just two roommates, but it is unclear if the issue is that the other roomie doesn’t have the money, or if he feels the rooms are being kept warmer than necessary.
It will be a long winter, I hope they reach some compromise soon.</p>